"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I don't effing understand

Ziro

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Okay so I've been dating this girl for a while now.
She totally dug me so much more than I dug her at the beginning. Then I started to like her a lot and it was pretty much even. I go to college and she lives in my hometown, and I get home on weekends, so during the week I'd send her emails saying that I'm thinking of her. For the first month/month and a half it's awesome she totally digs me. Now over the past week or so things have cooled down on her side. I don't know what I've done wrong. I didn't get overly needy or anything it's just weird. I hadn't seen her in three weeks though. I don't know if that could be a problem and I told her that we were going on a date soon. She agreed to it yesterday. Said she'd call me today but didn't (and I know she had time to). She used to send me a lot of emails, now they're quite a bit fewer. I don't know if I should be worried or not (well I know I shouldn't be worried because it's not like she's all I think about or anything) I just want advice as to how I should handle to situation. I just want to know how to raise her interest again if that's even possible at this point. I don't like it when people flake on calling me - it really pisses me off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Remulak

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It happens, she's pulling back all you can do is pull back also and see if she comes back. Crowding her will only push her further away. You probably want some quick fix advice that'll make her be head over heels for you again which you won't find, just do your own thing.
 
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Ziro said:
I hadn't seen her in three weeks though. .
Are you sexing her??

Of course she has time to call - there are still 24 hours in a day right?

Dont contact or send her an e-mail or anything until she responds!! Never tell a girl that you "miss" her unless she asks!

Never ask a girl if she is seeing someone else - you won't get the truth if she is!! Always do reconnaissance first! Once you know the answer then ask!
 

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Once you find yourself in the situation where you are wondering what is going on with a girl, you're basically fvcked.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nonchalant said:
Once you find yourself in the situation where you are wondering what is going on with a girl, you're basically fvcked
Not anymore!:D
 
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