"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"I dont do that anymore"

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Ive known this girl for a couple months, but I recently just started to hit on her and I've been getting good results. Last night, we were both (I more than her) a little tipsy and we started to make out at a party. Naturally, I got bored of this rather quickly and started to take things to a more fun level when she says "No I dont do that anymore" and "No, that would be bad" when I ask her to go upstairs or even to take her shirt off. She used to have a reputation for being kind of a slut, so I know she used to have fun with guys... should I be discouraged by this? I asked her why and she just kept saying "Not now, that would be bad".

Any thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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she still does that sort of thing, and is considerin doin it with you

use kino and the 'it's our world, sex is healthy' angle, she wants to be seduced
 

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I believe this is a case of ASD.

"I don't do that anymore" = "I'm not like that" = "I don't want to be seen as a slvt"

Run a search for Anti Slvt Defence.
Best of luck to you.

-Bill
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Boner da Stoner

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anti slut defense

:p stop pushing her so hard, If you want something so bad sometimes you have to wait:)

There are girls that a real man would say wow to just to get to know her. Those girls sometimes have negative convictions about themselves, and have created sets of actions so they DON'T FVCK VP anymore. This is where the shield you see comes in, what you do when you pick her up tonight is realize she either thins she's not drunk enough, not your slut, or she just doesn't want to have sex cause she hasn't gotten wet yet.

Foreplay is key you've heard by millions of AFC men and women, too true I say. Foreplay is probably what you didn't have.
 

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Chances are, she isn't attracted to you enough to have sex with you.

Either that or she's a tease and wants to see if you'll chase after her.
 

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You were just pinging off the damage shield.
 

Boner da Stoner

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Those things she said. If she was in the mood, are WAYYYYY too far out of context.

Just picture yourself with the girl, with your thoughts, than picture her saying those words, do they contend with your belief or what she should believe? Anybody know what imaging technique I'm using, I can't remember the name.

Anyways, she was **** testing you.

You failed.

Nice FR though, I like how you pinpointed exactly what you did wrong, it was tough for me to figure out right away.
 

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You didn't make her want it enough.

Boner da Stoner hit the nail on the head. Gotta be a bit more patient, and work her up more. Don't broadcast what you're doing, just work your way to it in a teasing, tantalizing way. If she stops you at some point, just accept that as her limit at that time, and continue doing what you were doing ... but break it off first, if you think to. That's the best way to have her wanting more.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bman

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you're going to have to play hard to get with her.
 
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