"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"I dont do that anymore"

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Ive known this girl for a couple months, but I recently just started to hit on her and I've been getting good results. Last night, we were both (I more than her) a little tipsy and we started to make out at a party. Naturally, I got bored of this rather quickly and started to take things to a more fun level when she says "No I dont do that anymore" and "No, that would be bad" when I ask her to go upstairs or even to take her shirt off. She used to have a reputation for being kind of a slut, so I know she used to have fun with guys... should I be discouraged by this? I asked her why and she just kept saying "Not now, that would be bad".

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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she still does that sort of thing, and is considerin doin it with you

use kino and the 'it's our world, sex is healthy' angle, she wants to be seduced
 

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I believe this is a case of ASD.

"I don't do that anymore" = "I'm not like that" = "I don't want to be seen as a slvt"

Run a search for Anti Slvt Defence.
Best of luck to you.

-Bill
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Boner da Stoner

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anti slut defense

:p stop pushing her so hard, If you want something so bad sometimes you have to wait:)

There are girls that a real man would say wow to just to get to know her. Those girls sometimes have negative convictions about themselves, and have created sets of actions so they DON'T FVCK VP anymore. This is where the shield you see comes in, what you do when you pick her up tonight is realize she either thins she's not drunk enough, not your slut, or she just doesn't want to have sex cause she hasn't gotten wet yet.

Foreplay is key you've heard by millions of AFC men and women, too true I say. Foreplay is probably what you didn't have.
 

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Chances are, she isn't attracted to you enough to have sex with you.

Either that or she's a tease and wants to see if you'll chase after her.
 

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You were just pinging off the damage shield.
 

Boner da Stoner

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Those things she said. If she was in the mood, are WAYYYYY too far out of context.

Just picture yourself with the girl, with your thoughts, than picture her saying those words, do they contend with your belief or what she should believe? Anybody know what imaging technique I'm using, I can't remember the name.

Anyways, she was **** testing you.

You failed.

Nice FR though, I like how you pinpointed exactly what you did wrong, it was tough for me to figure out right away.
 

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You didn't make her want it enough.

Boner da Stoner hit the nail on the head. Gotta be a bit more patient, and work her up more. Don't broadcast what you're doing, just work your way to it in a teasing, tantalizing way. If she stops you at some point, just accept that as her limit at that time, and continue doing what you were doing ... but break it off first, if you think to. That's the best way to have her wanting more.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you're going to have to play hard to get with her.
 
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