Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I don’t know about you, but these beauty filters starting to get silly

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The irony TM is the woman on the left in her natural state with very minimal makeup looks WAY better than the same girl on the right who frankly looks a bit silly IMO.

Can't say how you guys feel ('cept you TM).

When I did OLDing (I don't anymore as I prefer meeting men IRL), or chatting with a man I met online, I always sent a low key natural looking pic usually after yoga/pilates or while out and about on any given afternoon with very minimal makeup (like girl on left).

And always received compliments. Then if/when we met, he was pleasantly surprised as I make a bit more effort for a first meet or date.

Also a picture doesn't reflect your energy, which is a big part of attraction imo.

Same for me when it comes to men's pics and plenty of men do same with the lighting, camera angle, heavy grooming, filtering etc.

A man sending me a professional shot making him look like a model - NO thanks. Straight to trash.

Why?

Because it speaks to the type of man he is, too focused on his appearance and trying too hard to impress. Shallow typically even though I know that's not always the case. But first impressions count especially online.

I realize not all women feel as I do about it and go gaga over such model-looking pics. In fact I would say most women do and consider myself a bit of a weirdo in that regard.:D

I value a great physique over a face anyway. A face you're born with, your physique involves working out, training and EFFORT!

I am watching a reality series right now about various couples who meet on the internet, then eventually meet in person.

A few of the man complained because the pics they received were either old pics or heavily filtered.

Most of the couples were long distance and talked for MONTHS prior to meeting. They became quite emotionally close, many felt they were "in love" even!

Then when they met in person, it was like meeting a completely different woman because of the pictures they had sent!

One man became openly pissed off!!! The.pics had obviously been filtered and reflected a young looking woman with a slim body who kept herself in shape.

While the "real" her was older looking, different hair style and a bit overweight. Not sure quite what she was thinking by doing that but whatever. :oops:

This did not happen with the women, as most men (not all) sent genuine looking pics usually doing some activity or something

Anyway I agree with you TM, I will never understand the mindset of sending overly enhanced, filtered or old pics.

I mean what did these women think would happen once they met in person?

Might be too harsh but I find it disingenuous.
 
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@Travel memoir21 "Whatever happened to natural beauty and just being yourself?"

Became antiquated, the minute humans began throwing on make-up, styling their locks, altering their bodies via weight loss or bulking up, etc etc
 

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@Travel memoir21 "Whatever happened to natural beauty and just being yourself?"

Became antiquated, the minute humans began throwing on make-up, styling their locks, altering their bodies via weight loss or bulking up, etc etc
Well, got news, the makeup industry goes back over 6,000 years with the first recorded instance appearing in Ancient Egypt around 4000 BC.

There never really has ever been a time in the last 6000 years that women relied on "natural beauty".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the greater problem, in my opinion, is that people begin to compare themselves to an appearance that isn't real. filters can be entertaining when everyone is aware that they are filters, but normal faces start to appear "wrong" in comparison when heavily edited photos become the norm. that may interfere with one's perception of oneself and other people's expectations.
 
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