"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I do so well with girls I'm not interested in

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I mean really, really well. Perfectly. But only up to a point, because I'm not interested. When I'm actually interested, not much happens. Why is this? Should I just stop getting interested whatsoever?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Act like you aren't inerested. It sounds simple, it's tough in reality.
 

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I have the same problem I can talk to pretty much any girl I am not interested in but if I am then I cannot talk to them. It is like some sort of boundary until I just get up so much nerve to just go and talk to them. My convo does not flow as much as it does when I am not interested.
 

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Same here, same here, I find it way more difficult to stay calm and composed when talking to a girl i'm interested in.
 

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No you last 2 posters misunderstood him, he does not mean he finds it hard to talk to the girls, i know just what he means, its that they dont like him as much, its happened to me before. Its because you give way too much attention to them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I figured they weren't so interested because i might have lost composure, but you're right, and I've had it happen to me more than once.
Somewhere my game needs working on because I get dates left and right with girls i'm not really interested in, and then i get burnt by the ones I am interested in.
 

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Yeah i second that check mate kid. Giving too much attention can be a bad thing at first. It's better to give them just enough of your attention to get them interested, and then leave them wanting more. The more ways you can get the girl thinking about you, about being with you, the better.

I wouldn't advise to stop getting interested whatsoever, i'd advise asking yourself what is it that is different about the way you act around those you like/want and those you don't. Then you'll be better prepared.
 

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You're putting the pvssy on the pedestal.

You actually lack confidence, the "prize" mentality, with the girls you really want. With the mingers, you have the prize mentality so you don't give a crap.

Act like you're not interested.

I'd also suggest thinking less. You don't think with the mingers and it works. It'll work with attractive girls too.
 
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