"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BAR STUDYING !

Been studying for my MCITP (computer certification) at home and i'm slitting my wrists of boredom. So now I go to a local bar. And if I keep my beer intake to about 1 every :45 minutes I can study for a 4 hour block with reasonable retention! Not only this but i'm in a bar atmosphere doing a little light gaming of the ladies there, already getting a little chatty with the cutest bartender there. It really works out nice because I can go to a bar by myself and not have any of that "solo dude at the bar" awkwardness. A strange synergy...

Guys have any other unusual pickup techniques like this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I haven't tried bringing work or study materials to the bar, but I can defintely see it working because it gives you a legit reason to be there alone.

What I can vouch for is that some occasional booze can help you get work or study done that you are dreading.

I was at a conference in Vegas. I had to bring some work with me, unfortunately. So I'm in my hotel room trying to do work on my laptop. I was dreading doing it and couldn't focus. Then I remembered, I'm in Vegas. I can get drinks TO GO :). Went down to the hotel/casino bar and got a rum and coke (in a glass I don't have to return) and brought it upstairs. I got my project done in a couple hours.

I just as easily could have brought my computer downstairs and set up on a bar table.

So, dreading doing work or study? Have a drink. Dreading approaching women? Have a drink. Isn't it the same anxiety anyway lol?

But back to the OP, yeah that's a good technique. Plus at the bar, you are around people. Solitary study or work is lonely and boring. Plus it shows women that you are a working professional and not a bar fly.
 

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"Plus it shows women that you are a working professional and not a bar fly."

I think this is key to the technique also, if a girl sees you walk in solo. There's just this kind of looser/friendless vibe you have to immediately overcome. Too much trash just goes to hang out in bars solo. But if you go in there with something to do like this they just figure you get bored studying at home and went in for a brew.

I just started doing this, this last weekend. First night I went in the bartender in question was basically indifferent. The second night she was already initiating conversation, asking questions, showing me how she draws smiley faces on her bar tabs for her customers. When I closed out I asked for her to close me out so I could get a smiley face, she was happy about that, I definitely saw a little IL there sparking. She's got a bangin body but I would give her face a 6-7, definitely awesome for something that works a couple blocks away from your place. Very convenient lay if I can get that going... not bad for two study sessions. I'm definitely going to keep this going, just have to stay disciplined with the beer thing..
 

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Interesting...

Splacker, what time of day do you do this?
 

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I'm definitely going to try this. Any particular subject area you find more appealing to chicks at bars?

I'm a big reader. Maybe I'll just stop by the bar with a classic and a notepad and pen and pretend it's for a class or something.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Both times I went in right around 5 and spent like 3 hours there. My goal is to get a good 4 hour study session going. My tablet has about 4 hrs battery life while i'm reading so if I can study the duration of the whole battery I would be totally satisfied with that. Four hrs is tough for me man I have a short attention span.

Book choices? Go with that "40 shades of grey" lol. Any girl asks about that, the the conversation goes straight to sex FTW! Might want to pick a little more upscale bar to read in. Wouldn't want to come off as snobbish to some of the ghetto bar rats.

I think also how you study has something to do with your success. I just use my tablet and that's it. I may look a little strange whipping out a text book and taking notes. Makes my presence there a little more light and trendy kinda...
 
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