Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Here's my opinion about what happened.
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100%. Though I should clarify I didn't "build her up" in the sense of idealizing/pedastalizing her (I know better), but I did get attached too easily which is different. Reason being, we did genuinely have great, deep conversation and she was very kind, frequently asking how well I slept, how I'm doing, checking in, doing favors for me. That means a lot to me, hoe or not.
Yes I definitely do still need to work on myself. Honestly, it could be unresolved baggage from all the women I dated/banged in the past 2.5 years which was with about 15 different women, of which I seriously dated 5 for various periods from 2-10 months... but on another note I've built increasingly strong relationships with my family, friends, and I've been generally more social, even taking on a sales job, so it's not like I'm socially isolated and trying to make up for it with romantic relationships, either.
OP being mildly annoyed/disappointed would be understandable. But he's DEVASTATED by some chick he boffed a couple of times vanishing though, and seems to be convinced that there's was a romance for the ages, when he barely knew her. Nothing about this is especially "normal", loaded as that word is
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
He doesn't see it as something emotionally/romantically deep.
I hope he doesn't
When did I say or even imply I was devastated? Or say anything implying this was a "romance for the ages"? I said we had a deep and genuine connection. You're actually just putting words into my mouth at this point.
During that prolonged, maudlin OP. As said, it'd be understandable if you were merely annoyed or disappointed that she disappeared. As one of our mods pointed out though:
Your reaction is disproportionate to the reality
I said it's disappointing and sure, a bit sad. It's not like i'm sitting at home crying. I hit a new squat PR this week and I'm about to close a sale.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.