"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I did the right thing...right?

tryin 2 play

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Met this girl 1 week after she got out of a 4 yr relationship with a verbally and sometimes physically abusive boyfreind. Had first date 1 month later. Her IL was sky high... I was taking things slow, playing it right, but then she kept trying to hang out all the time, and we started to feel like a couple. She was scared to be my girlfreind because she thought her ex would try to fight me. Anyway, after 3 weeks of knowing her, she said i love you and wants to be my girlfreind. I knew it was too soon, but let it happen anyway.
Soon after, her mood changed completely. She started acting crazy. We would have small fights, and she would say she hated me and didnt really love me, next day she would apologize. This happened quite a few times. This whole time she was always saying "you don't really like me much, your too good for me etc..." Then she said that she feels like she "has to be with her ex, because of the crazy **** he said to her" He told her she wont go anywhere with out him, etc...and she really believes this idiot.
I keep seeing more signs she is still into him. Then she says she misses the way he treated her...tat he kissed the ground she walked on and worshipped her, something I dont do. She said part of her wants him back, but she doesnt even like him, just how he treated her. She started saying we jumped into this too soon and she had no time to breathe, I agreed. She wanted time to clear her head and get him out of her mind. She kept telling me I was too good for her. Eventually I said that she was right and I left.
I think I did the right thing. I treated her very good actually, but was not over the top because we had only known each other two months. I think I deserved better so i got out. But some people have told me that I didn't try hard enough, so I'm kind of having second thoughts. I just don't want this relationship to end because of me not trying, but I really don't think thats the case, as any normal girl would see that I liekd her.
In my opinion, she was just too screwed up from her ex, as she even said she was. She claims she doesnt love him, but still kind of wants him back for the baove stated reasons. This right there tells me she is f^cked! So I got out, and she kept contacting me. I told her do not call me again...so eventually she stopped.
Do you guys think this was the right thing? I feel silly even asking it, as i know i did the right thing, so maybe this is more to vent than anything else. Thanks guys! and sorry for the long post.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I do not know why this is one giant paragraph, i wrote it in like 5 or 6 smaller ones so it would be easier to read, i tried editing it. Anyone know whatsup?
 

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yea definately the right choice, emotionally unstable girls like this will always cause problems for you in the end.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah bro you DEFINITELY handled this situation correctly! The simple fact is she wants a CHUMP who she can control. If you add that this chick is whacked in the head (who tells someone they love them 3 weeks in to dating???) and probably comes from a terrible family background is even more of a reason to stay away. These girls have destructive habits that will eventually creep into your life the longer your with her.

Keep moving forward and never look back.



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trying 2 play, you absolutely did the right thing. You did nothing wrong.

This may be un-PC but you cannot waste your time and energy on these "damaged" women. If they have been with an abusive BF or abused as a child - get rid of them. I genuinely feel sorry for them, but they have been screwed up since childhood or they have become addicted to the "high" that comes from these type of experiences.

I could tell you how to keep her - but why would you want to ruin your life with the constant drama she would put you through.

It is normal for you to feel a sense of loss at the moment. These type of women are experts at providing an emotional high - they are like a drug. However, the lows that they bring you to are too high a price to pay.

Be proud of yourself for recognizing the situation for what it was and ending it.

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dude i admire you... sometimes it take more strength to leave a girl than to approach one and you did hte right thing. I wish i did the same thing... **** anyway good job
 

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Yea thanks guys...She comes from a kind of weird back ground. When her mother found out she was being hit, she said "well u were probably annoying him so he hit you." I was shocked!!! What kind of mother says that to her daughter?
So anyway yea this girl thinks she deserves an a$$hole like that...but im not that dude....so peace im outta here!
Thanks again for the replies
 
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