"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I did one of the hardest social things tonight - went to the bar alone
- Thread starter bigdave17
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you're short though, for online dating and clubs that's a big problem. I'm not short
I'm also incredibly successful, which should help me if I ever do online dating. Men who earn 150K+ get responses at 10 times better rate than average
yea and very very very few of those men are in that 9-10 category
You guys spend all this time looking at male models and fitness models and don't realize the reality of the situation. Dudes out there who have a nice, masculine but somewhat pretty boy face, nice muscles and dress super sharp are more attractive than 95-99% of society
a 9 or a 10 - "a chad" - IE male model facial features - is incredibly incredibly rare. Go outside in public and pay attention. Most dudes look like garbage
You're like that guy who thinks 150K a year income is mediocre and you need to make 500K to be impressive...until you realize that the average national income is like 30K
I'm not saying that to insult you. My buddy who is an awesome guy told me he had the same problems with online dating being 5'4
he did eventually meet a beautiful Lebanese on match.com though but she's tiny herself
Don't listen to that nonsense. She knows that none of those male models would date her anyways. They would f*ck and chuck
Most women get smart at some point and realize they need to date someone in their own level. A male 10 is not going to take a 7 seriously
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I agree with your main point BTW
I look at my ability to make friends very quickly with almost anybody I see - it's because I believe in myself
I look at my inability to get hot girls - it's because I don't believe in myself
confidence is everything
what I'm telling you is her line to you was mostly nonsense. She is dating you because she knows you're her league and she won't get pumped and dumped
you can't use this online dating example. You're 5'5 bro. Online dating is very very difficult on short men, even if you're attractive and successful
but you could probably approach 7-10s in real life and still be successful
5'8 ain't that short
hhhmmm I wondering why you weren't having any success on online dating. I've talked to guys who were 6/10s who had found decent looking women on dating sites
anyways, I'll let you know my experiences when I try it myself. I will tell you my friend who is maybe 5'4 or 5'5 did meet a beautiful 5'0 Lebanese girl on there and they're very happily together
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You gotta stop thinking like this. It's what's keeping you out of it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's so true.
I have had no success with on online dating either. I've talked to guys who were 9/10s and cannot find decent looking women on dating sites.
I will tell you my friend who is maybe 6,1 or 6'2 did meet a beautiful 5'9 Caucasian girl on there and they're very happy together.