"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I could really use some advice on life, and getting off rock bottom..

The Karate Kid

Don Juan
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Yeah, Ive been training for about 5 years, but i have had some gaps in there unfortunately due to a few different reasons.

I appreciate all the advice ive gotten on here. I know i probably sounded a bit dramatic. In actuality, I do have plenty going for me, and i am actually great with women(with the lone exception). I guess i have to stop thinking about the what ifs, and the mistakes i have made.

And in regards to the girl i spoke of, Im not surprised that she is staying away until i get my mind right, With the way i have acted, im shocked she put up with it. The sad part is that i knew every single thing i was doing wrong, but emotions have a funny way of making you forget logic, and what works. Maybe someday her and I can be cool again. Oh well.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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