"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I could really use some advice on life, and getting off rock bottom..

The Karate Kid

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Yeah, Ive been training for about 5 years, but i have had some gaps in there unfortunately due to a few different reasons.

I appreciate all the advice ive gotten on here. I know i probably sounded a bit dramatic. In actuality, I do have plenty going for me, and i am actually great with women(with the lone exception). I guess i have to stop thinking about the what ifs, and the mistakes i have made.

And in regards to the girl i spoke of, Im not surprised that she is staying away until i get my mind right, With the way i have acted, im shocked she put up with it. The sad part is that i knew every single thing i was doing wrong, but emotions have a funny way of making you forget logic, and what works. Maybe someday her and I can be cool again. Oh well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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