"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i confronted her! read!~

silkkster

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So this woman gave me her number, i called her about 2 or 3 times and she didint call me back. which kind of was weird to me because she is very flirty, and shows the "signs". So today i just camout and said something like

"so how come you havent gone out with me yet, ive asked like 3 times" she had a look on her face that was so funny. she got a phone call (we are radio djs - disc jockeys) then i waited to see who spoke first...SHE did so she told me she was sorry but she was very busy but next week she will be free..
before leaving i told her im going to take her up on that offer for going out to lunch next week..
so.. do you think i played this well?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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ATribeCalledDS

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Hey what's up! I'm a apprentice DJ, and I got to say that men, you sound desperate toward that girl. If she cancel the next date (or report it whatever), it's because I majorly think that it's because you turn her off (i've done the same, we've all done the same mistake and gotten the same result)
 

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thanx for the advice..i will take note of it...if she flakes on me then no more..she lost her chance lol...
 

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I'm assuming she will flake - did you call her and leave messages 3 times or just try to call her 3 times? If its the former then you should take a look at that behaviour and fast.
 

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You are one desperate mofo.
Don't bother with her at all. If she makes an offer fair enough. But other then that, don't bother mate.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Im against calling out a girl. Honestly what does it gain you? You think you 'won" but in the end your not tapping her ass and she thinks your a loser and so do all her friends.
 

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seems to me you came across as too desperate and needy...I wouldnt bother with this girl anymore...just next her and learn from your mistake...if you think about it you learned something so its no big deal...think about how you can do things diffrently when it comes to the next girl
 

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There are always two ways to look at this.

1.) You gave her a chance.. if she doesn't reciprocate then NEXT her
2.) She is a woman.. you are the man.. you need to lead which means you need to "Make the HO say NO" LOL

So I guess if you were taking option 1 then stop and move on. If you are going option two then be very direct and make her say no. Mind you if you can't get her on the phone etc. and you've tried a couple of times see option 1. :D
 

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"so how come you havent gone out with me yet, ive asked like 3 times" she had a look on her face that was so funny.
and you wondered why she had the funny look on her face.

well, funny look = wow, he's that desperate.

stop bugging her to go out with you. that's childish.

you like...wil not leave her alone till she shuts you up and agrees to go out with you.


-sigh-
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rollo Tomassi

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Called her 3 times did you?

Desperation is a sticky cologne.
 
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