"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i confronted her! read!~

silkkster

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So this woman gave me her number, i called her about 2 or 3 times and she didint call me back. which kind of was weird to me because she is very flirty, and shows the "signs". So today i just camout and said something like

"so how come you havent gone out with me yet, ive asked like 3 times" she had a look on her face that was so funny. she got a phone call (we are radio djs - disc jockeys) then i waited to see who spoke first...SHE did so she told me she was sorry but she was very busy but next week she will be free..
before leaving i told her im going to take her up on that offer for going out to lunch next week..
so.. do you think i played this well?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ATribeCalledDS

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Hey what's up! I'm a apprentice DJ, and I got to say that men, you sound desperate toward that girl. If she cancel the next date (or report it whatever), it's because I majorly think that it's because you turn her off (i've done the same, we've all done the same mistake and gotten the same result)
 

silkkster

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thanx for the advice..i will take note of it...if she flakes on me then no more..she lost her chance lol...
 

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I'm assuming she will flake - did you call her and leave messages 3 times or just try to call her 3 times? If its the former then you should take a look at that behaviour and fast.
 

CaptainObvious#1

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You are one desperate mofo.
Don't bother with her at all. If she makes an offer fair enough. But other then that, don't bother mate.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Im against calling out a girl. Honestly what does it gain you? You think you 'won" but in the end your not tapping her ass and she thinks your a loser and so do all her friends.
 

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seems to me you came across as too desperate and needy...I wouldnt bother with this girl anymore...just next her and learn from your mistake...if you think about it you learned something so its no big deal...think about how you can do things diffrently when it comes to the next girl
 

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There are always two ways to look at this.

1.) You gave her a chance.. if she doesn't reciprocate then NEXT her
2.) She is a woman.. you are the man.. you need to lead which means you need to "Make the HO say NO" LOL

So I guess if you were taking option 1 then stop and move on. If you are going option two then be very direct and make her say no. Mind you if you can't get her on the phone etc. and you've tried a couple of times see option 1. :D
 

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"so how come you havent gone out with me yet, ive asked like 3 times" she had a look on her face that was so funny.
and you wondered why she had the funny look on her face.

well, funny look = wow, he's that desperate.

stop bugging her to go out with you. that's childish.

you like...wil not leave her alone till she shuts you up and agrees to go out with you.


-sigh-
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rollo Tomassi

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Called her 3 times did you?

Desperation is a sticky cologne.
 
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