I can't stop thinking about this girl and its pissing me off

[Brighty]

It started back in eight grade, me and this one girl had a thing or w/e, we liked each other but I was a shy bytch at the time and I never made a move and eventually she ended up going out with some other dude. For the next year every so often I'd wondered what would've happened if i actually asked the girl out and I'd wonder if she still liked/thought about me. I thought about her alot. It was pathetic. I was pathetic as hell my freshman year and I'd always thought that we'd get together somehow even though she doesn't even go to the same school as me. Thankfully i found this website about this time last year and tried to follow the bible here. it took some time but i slowly became an apsiring-DJ.

Now I'm a sophmore and I'm starting to get more play, which is inifinitvely better off than last year where I got none, but seldom my thoughts keep returning to her and it just disgusts the fvck out of me. I mean yeah, she's hot, but shyt there are so many like her out there. Every time I hear her name I get the same funny feeling inside as I did in 8th grade, but I want this shyt to stop for real, I'm a totally different guy than I was last year and I'm not a bytch anymore. I know this sounds kind of stupid but how the hell can I get myself to stop thinking about her?

I'm thinking the main reason behind why I still can't really let this bytch go is because that was the first time that I didn't approach a girl and i lost her and now I'm stuck wondering what would've happened and i'm jealous and angry with myself. does this make sense to you guys?


any insight?

 

[Kev07]

You could always go complete AFC and confess all this to her.

that might give you peace of mind.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

Or you can realize what you did to ruin your chance with her, and focus on those things. Use it as fuel to improve yourself.

 

[nicenomore]

Go and approach.....

If she accepts you: great , If not :at least she is out of your mind.

 

[Brighty]

Or you can realize what you did to ruin your chance with her, and focus on those things. Use it as fuel to improve yourself.

I like that, actually, and its a good idea.

But unfortunately it might come down to going total AFC and confessing everything to her just so I get forget about that stupid bytch.

 

[Brighty]

If you guys have any more insight to offer on the situation, it'd be appricaited.

 

[Plec07]

Do what nicenomore said and game her again, but this time don't let the opportunity pass.

 

[GaryUranga]

I dont know whats so bad abot the situation right now that you cant just go for it, go try things out, if it doesnt work ACCEPT it and move on

 

[frisco]

My insight is to not devote a full post to any specific girls just the game in general, Because you devoting a full post just makes you aware that you still got oneits

 

[The Shocker]

go after her. If she rejects you it's over, if she wants you, then you're fulfilling the fantasy.

 

[Brighty]

So a month and a half later and I haven't done anything. Since she goes to a completely different high school, I never see her, and I haven't been able to talk to her. When I tell myself I'm going to make a move, I keep on thinking of:

A. What if she has a guy already?
B. We BOTH played the game that we didn't pay attention to each other in 8th grade (I played it because of the advice of my friends, she because she was shy), I don't want to be the one to cave and tell her my feelings for her because she'll think I'm a total AFC.
C. If I confess everything to her and it does work out, how am I going to even make the relationship last? I'll of seemed desperate and clingy and she'll think I'm an AFC and then it'll be game over.

I really could use some help, I really want to hook up with this chick but I have the worst feeling that if I confess to her and face rejection, she'll tell all of her friends and I'll come off as a total AFC and never get with another girl from that group of friends (which sucks because they're all popular).

Really, I'm desperate for some advice here.

 

[Touchout]

So a month and a half later and I haven't done anything.

Forget about her

Since she goes to a completely different high school, I never see her, and I haven't been able to talk to her.

So, forget about her?

When I tell myself I'm going to make a move, I keep on thinking of:

A. What if she has a guy already?

You waited too long

B. We BOTH played the game that we didn't pay attention to each other in 8th grade (I played it because of the advice of my friends, she because she was shy), I don't want to be the one to cave and tell her my feelings for her because she'll think I'm a total AFC.

So? it's not like you see her everyday anyway. Like you said, you haven't had a chance to see her or talk to her in TWO YEARS.

C. If I confess everything to her and it does work out, how am I going to even make the relationship last? I'll of seemed desperate and clingy and she'll think I'm an AFC and then it'll be game over.

Your inching dangerously close to AFC by thinking like that. NEVER let negative thoughts control you.

I really could use some help, I really want to hook up with this chick but I have the worst feeling that if I confess to her and face rejection, she'll tell all of her friends and I'll come off as a total AFC and never get with another girl from that group of friends (which sucks because they're all popular).

Really, I'm desperate for some advice here.[/QUOTE]

No, first of all she won't go around telling everyone about you. Second, even if she does tell some of her friends, it won't really negatively affect what they think of you. In fact, it could positively affect it because it shows you have some balls.

You have two options:

A) Find someway to contact her (Facebook maybe?) and put your mind to rest by asking her out.

B) Live the rest of your life regretting that you never made a move and thinking about what could have been.

**** or get off the pot my friend.