"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i can't speak properly

ICaughtFire

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i can't speak properly
english is my third language and the problem with speaking is that usually i speak too fast, and because i have american influence in me in tend to slur words and my accent is just not poerfect

i can speak perfect english, but whenever i get nervous i get tongue tied and i speak too fast or slurry again

im a naturally funny person and i can think of a neg hit/****y/ funny in most situations pretty quick, im also nice and considerate, and i guess im quite good looking although not the best, so communicating with ladies is one big obstacle for me

guys how can i solve this problem??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crossboss

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Pratice with a tape recorder

If you don't have a tape recorder, use your answering machine. Learn to think before you speak, and take pauses. Also think of words you have trouble with speaking, look them up in the dictionary and practice pronuncation. I believe there are places online or products you can buy if you click on the word, a voice says the word back to you.

Make sure you don't over emphasize anything. You will sound like a robot.

Hope this helps.
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by ICaughtFire
i can't speak properly
english is my third language and the problem with speaking is that usually i speak too fast, and because i have american influence in me in tend to slur words and my accent is just not poerfect

i can speak perfect english, but whenever i get nervous i get tongue tied and i speak too fast or slurry again

im a naturally funny person and i can think of a neg hit/****y/ funny in most situations pretty quick, im also nice and considerate, and i guess im quite good looking although not the best, so communicating with ladies is one big obstacle for me

guys how can i solve this problem??
Don't worry about it, take your time man. chicks love guys w/ accents. You say you're a naturally funny person, that's great. I've seen foreign guys, who are funny no matter what they say.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJnoob

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They have classes you can take to improve your speaking skill.
 
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