"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i can't speak properly

ICaughtFire

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i can't speak properly
english is my third language and the problem with speaking is that usually i speak too fast, and because i have american influence in me in tend to slur words and my accent is just not poerfect

i can speak perfect english, but whenever i get nervous i get tongue tied and i speak too fast or slurry again

im a naturally funny person and i can think of a neg hit/****y/ funny in most situations pretty quick, im also nice and considerate, and i guess im quite good looking although not the best, so communicating with ladies is one big obstacle for me

guys how can i solve this problem??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crossboss

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Pratice with a tape recorder

If you don't have a tape recorder, use your answering machine. Learn to think before you speak, and take pauses. Also think of words you have trouble with speaking, look them up in the dictionary and practice pronuncation. I believe there are places online or products you can buy if you click on the word, a voice says the word back to you.

Make sure you don't over emphasize anything. You will sound like a robot.

Hope this helps.
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by ICaughtFire
i can't speak properly
english is my third language and the problem with speaking is that usually i speak too fast, and because i have american influence in me in tend to slur words and my accent is just not poerfect

i can speak perfect english, but whenever i get nervous i get tongue tied and i speak too fast or slurry again

im a naturally funny person and i can think of a neg hit/****y/ funny in most situations pretty quick, im also nice and considerate, and i guess im quite good looking although not the best, so communicating with ladies is one big obstacle for me

guys how can i solve this problem??
Don't worry about it, take your time man. chicks love guys w/ accents. You say you're a naturally funny person, that's great. I've seen foreign guys, who are funny no matter what they say.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJnoob

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They have classes you can take to improve your speaking skill.
 
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