theapprentice
Don Juan
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Im having problems attracting girls, period. My first problem is just approaching girls, I get scared and the only way to solve that is to have more confidence and to change my self image into a positive one. Im working on that.
My second problem that I dont know the answer to is how, once I have made contact with a girl.."hi..blah blah blah" I dont know how to act and talk. Well I know the principles, but principles dont really help in coming up with things to say that reflect those qualities.
According to me, here are a list of qualities that I know that women find attractive.
-Confidence
-Humor
-Conversation Skill
-Mystery
-Compassion
-"X" Factor - this is that special thing that seperates you, you can call it the ******* factor if you want.
THe problem I have is applying those qualities, if for example we sit in a room with girls, then my friends will talk and talk and make girls laugh and all I will want to do is stay quiet and be serious. But if I show desire and force myself then I can manage to make people laugh. But I rather just chill and take it easy.
BUt when I take it easy I just "sit on the couch" and not talk to anyone or make a big mental effort to try and impress people.
My dilema, I just want to be chill and relaxed out, but its the loud brash guy, assholish guy who talks and gets women to like him.
How can I transform my persoanlity so that I can exhibit those qualites?
I really want girls to like me, is that a wrong feeling to have? or should I think "Im a DJ, I dont need to like girls, I am the prize?"
How can I develop those qualites so that I dont have to focus on being funny when I am talking to girls but it just comes out like when I talk with my family members?
My second problem that I dont know the answer to is how, once I have made contact with a girl.."hi..blah blah blah" I dont know how to act and talk. Well I know the principles, but principles dont really help in coming up with things to say that reflect those qualities.
According to me, here are a list of qualities that I know that women find attractive.
-Confidence
-Humor
-Conversation Skill
-Mystery
-Compassion
-"X" Factor - this is that special thing that seperates you, you can call it the ******* factor if you want.
THe problem I have is applying those qualities, if for example we sit in a room with girls, then my friends will talk and talk and make girls laugh and all I will want to do is stay quiet and be serious. But if I show desire and force myself then I can manage to make people laugh. But I rather just chill and take it easy.
BUt when I take it easy I just "sit on the couch" and not talk to anyone or make a big mental effort to try and impress people.
My dilema, I just want to be chill and relaxed out, but its the loud brash guy, assholish guy who talks and gets women to like him.
How can I transform my persoanlity so that I can exhibit those qualites?
I really want girls to like me, is that a wrong feeling to have? or should I think "Im a DJ, I dont need to like girls, I am the prize?"
How can I develop those qualites so that I dont have to focus on being funny when I am talking to girls but it just comes out like when I talk with my family members?