neobrood
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"Fvck it... A lot of shlt already happened to me... I don't care anymore what happens to me. I'd just approach that woman and say hi..."
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I can't approach...
- Thread starter playa in trainin'
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ok, I went out last night and you need to realize what I saw and what everyone is saying. No matter how good you look, YOU have to approach, the girls won't. The three best looking guys in the place last night looked like they were out to have fun and looked like they were having a great time. Even though they were good looking and having fun, they still didn't have girls go up to them and talk.
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Quick tip for you that has always worked for me:
I was once very shy as I had a confidence-stunted growth (funny name), and hence I had a problem approaching ladies.
I solved my problem with this:
Just say to yourself (dont replace 'you' with 'I') 'you do it now, or you'll never do it'. You'll probably do it; you're telling yourself that you'll be a failure if you bunk out of it. You'll get two things out of this; i)you'll feel super-confident walking away from a really great chat you've just had with an SuHB ii)you've just had a great chat with her, you're welcome to chat to her whenever you like; you have some form of a future with her [instead of just eye-buddies].
When you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of two brilliant things (do not replace 'You' with 'I'); "you are living your life really brilliantly", "You are living for the moment!"
You're living for today. You don't have long to live.
In a few years you will be dead! Tomorrow you will wake up and say Hi to every hottie you like; chances are she will initiate conversation after the initial fluff talk.
I was once very shy as I had a confidence-stunted growth (funny name), and hence I had a problem approaching ladies.
I solved my problem with this:
Just say to yourself (dont replace 'you' with 'I') 'you do it now, or you'll never do it'. You'll probably do it; you're telling yourself that you'll be a failure if you bunk out of it. You'll get two things out of this; i)you'll feel super-confident walking away from a really great chat you've just had with an SuHB ii)you've just had a great chat with her, you're welcome to chat to her whenever you like; you have some form of a future with her [instead of just eye-buddies].
When you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of two brilliant things (do not replace 'You' with 'I'); "you are living your life really brilliantly", "You are living for the moment!"
You're living for today. You don't have long to live.
In a few years you will be dead! Tomorrow you will wake up and say Hi to every hottie you like; chances are she will initiate conversation after the initial fluff talk.
Shiraz
Don Juan
thats some really good advice..Originally posted by DankNuggs
Before you say you 'can't' do something...realize if you never approach any girls, the rest of your life will be spent alone...The girls you get with will be the ones that approach YOU, they will be of considerably less quality than what you could've had...Your relationships will be unfulfilling, knowing that you never gave your best chance to go after what YOU WANT....
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ryanvalmont
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I kinda do ALOT of alpha stuff and do ALOT of ec...that way girls always either say something to me or look at me when there near me.Originally posted by playa in trainin'
huh? what do you mean exactly?
Then all i say is "HI"
Or i'll pull using the dancefloor
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Dude, you obviously run into these women on a regular basis. One of them you've already had a conversation with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you saying, "Hi". In fact, its kind of weird that you never do. These chicks are probably wondering why you never say anything to them. Next time you see one of the ones you've never talked to just say, "Hi", I see you here all the time what's your name? To the one you talked to before, say whatever comes to mind, you already sort of know her. Don't worry about messing up.There's to many women in the world to worry about one.
ryanvalmont
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AMEN!Originally posted by relentless
Dude, you obviously run into these women on a regular basis. One of them you've already had a conversation with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you saying, "Hi". In fact, its kind of weird that you never do. These chicks are probably wondering why you never say anything to them. Next time you see one of the ones you've never talked to just say, "Hi", I see you here all the time what's your name? To the one you talked to before, say whatever comes to mind, you already sort of know her. Don't worry about messing up.There's to many women in the world to worry about one.
SealTeamSix
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Here is how.
I am not shy man, nor talking to girls whom I know previously .. But when it came to talking to woman whom I do not know, I was nervious... That said .. I over came that fear with following mentality:
1. What could be the WORST thing that can happen to you if you 'approach' her? Rejection. But if you do not do anything about it, the result would be the same; you not talking to her->another missed opportunity.
2. Think you are walking a path. The path that will lead you to ***** of HB .. And every single girls who lie on your path are your test subjects. Its ok you messed up. So what? move on to the next subject. No body cares, and nobody knows...
3. Why should I have fear of approachin hot babe? I would be if i was approaching Tiger or lion .. but not hot babe.. Just imagin how much fun you will have with her instead of worrying !
I always remind myself those reasons... it simply washes away the fear ...
I am not shy man, nor talking to girls whom I know previously .. But when it came to talking to woman whom I do not know, I was nervious... That said .. I over came that fear with following mentality:
1. What could be the WORST thing that can happen to you if you 'approach' her? Rejection. But if you do not do anything about it, the result would be the same; you not talking to her->another missed opportunity.
2. Think you are walking a path. The path that will lead you to ***** of HB .. And every single girls who lie on your path are your test subjects. Its ok you messed up. So what? move on to the next subject. No body cares, and nobody knows...
3. Why should I have fear of approachin hot babe? I would be if i was approaching Tiger or lion .. but not hot babe.. Just imagin how much fun you will have with her instead of worrying !
I always remind myself those reasons... it simply washes away the fear ...