neobrood
Senior Don Juan
"Fvck it... A lot of shlt already happened to me... I don't care anymore what happens to me. I'd just approach that woman and say hi..."
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I can't approach...
- Thread starter playa in trainin'
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ok, I went out last night and you need to realize what I saw and what everyone is saying. No matter how good you look, YOU have to approach, the girls won't. The three best looking guys in the place last night looked like they were out to have fun and looked like they were having a great time. Even though they were good looking and having fun, they still didn't have girls go up to them and talk.
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Quick tip for you that has always worked for me:
I was once very shy as I had a confidence-stunted growth (funny name), and hence I had a problem approaching ladies.
I solved my problem with this:
Just say to yourself (dont replace 'you' with 'I') 'you do it now, or you'll never do it'. You'll probably do it; you're telling yourself that you'll be a failure if you bunk out of it. You'll get two things out of this; i)you'll feel super-confident walking away from a really great chat you've just had with an SuHB ii)you've just had a great chat with her, you're welcome to chat to her whenever you like; you have some form of a future with her [instead of just eye-buddies].
When you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of two brilliant things (do not replace 'You' with 'I'); "you are living your life really brilliantly", "You are living for the moment!"
You're living for today. You don't have long to live.
In a few years you will be dead! Tomorrow you will wake up and say Hi to every hottie you like; chances are she will initiate conversation after the initial fluff talk.
I was once very shy as I had a confidence-stunted growth (funny name), and hence I had a problem approaching ladies.
I solved my problem with this:
Just say to yourself (dont replace 'you' with 'I') 'you do it now, or you'll never do it'. You'll probably do it; you're telling yourself that you'll be a failure if you bunk out of it. You'll get two things out of this; i)you'll feel super-confident walking away from a really great chat you've just had with an SuHB ii)you've just had a great chat with her, you're welcome to chat to her whenever you like; you have some form of a future with her [instead of just eye-buddies].
When you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of two brilliant things (do not replace 'You' with 'I'); "you are living your life really brilliantly", "You are living for the moment!"
You're living for today. You don't have long to live.
In a few years you will be dead! Tomorrow you will wake up and say Hi to every hottie you like; chances are she will initiate conversation after the initial fluff talk.
Shiraz
Don Juan
thats some really good advice..Originally posted by DankNuggs
Before you say you 'can't' do something...realize if you never approach any girls, the rest of your life will be spent alone...The girls you get with will be the ones that approach YOU, they will be of considerably less quality than what you could've had...Your relationships will be unfulfilling, knowing that you never gave your best chance to go after what YOU WANT....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ryanvalmont
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I kinda do ALOT of alpha stuff and do ALOT of ec...that way girls always either say something to me or look at me when there near me.Originally posted by playa in trainin'
huh? what do you mean exactly?
Then all i say is "HI"
Or i'll pull using the dancefloor
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Dude, you obviously run into these women on a regular basis. One of them you've already had a conversation with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you saying, "Hi". In fact, its kind of weird that you never do. These chicks are probably wondering why you never say anything to them. Next time you see one of the ones you've never talked to just say, "Hi", I see you here all the time what's your name? To the one you talked to before, say whatever comes to mind, you already sort of know her. Don't worry about messing up.There's to many women in the world to worry about one.
ryanvalmont
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AMEN!Originally posted by relentless
Dude, you obviously run into these women on a regular basis. One of them you've already had a conversation with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you saying, "Hi". In fact, its kind of weird that you never do. These chicks are probably wondering why you never say anything to them. Next time you see one of the ones you've never talked to just say, "Hi", I see you here all the time what's your name? To the one you talked to before, say whatever comes to mind, you already sort of know her. Don't worry about messing up.There's to many women in the world to worry about one.
SealTeamSix
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Here is how.
I am not shy man, nor talking to girls whom I know previously .. But when it came to talking to woman whom I do not know, I was nervious... That said .. I over came that fear with following mentality:
1. What could be the WORST thing that can happen to you if you 'approach' her? Rejection. But if you do not do anything about it, the result would be the same; you not talking to her->another missed opportunity.
2. Think you are walking a path. The path that will lead you to ***** of HB .. And every single girls who lie on your path are your test subjects. Its ok you messed up. So what? move on to the next subject. No body cares, and nobody knows...
3. Why should I have fear of approachin hot babe? I would be if i was approaching Tiger or lion .. but not hot babe.. Just imagin how much fun you will have with her instead of worrying !
I always remind myself those reasons... it simply washes away the fear ...
I am not shy man, nor talking to girls whom I know previously .. But when it came to talking to woman whom I do not know, I was nervious... That said .. I over came that fear with following mentality:
1. What could be the WORST thing that can happen to you if you 'approach' her? Rejection. But if you do not do anything about it, the result would be the same; you not talking to her->another missed opportunity.
2. Think you are walking a path. The path that will lead you to ***** of HB .. And every single girls who lie on your path are your test subjects. Its ok you messed up. So what? move on to the next subject. No body cares, and nobody knows...
3. Why should I have fear of approachin hot babe? I would be if i was approaching Tiger or lion .. but not hot babe.. Just imagin how much fun you will have with her instead of worrying !
I always remind myself those reasons... it simply washes away the fear ...