"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I can hold Eye Contact but nothing comes to mind

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BeDJ

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Well It's very easy for me to hold eye contact with a girl during a conversation with her holding it with me. However, Whenever I hold eye contact for a over 4 seconds, I end up with understanding nothing she said, and when I try to answer a question that requires SOME thinking while holding eye contact, I get somewhat blank like my head ain't operating.

Is this because I am concentrating too much energy on eye contact?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are thinking about it too much. Just relax and listent to what she is saying, hopefully you are able to concentrate on more the one thing at once.
 
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when you hold ec for 5 seconds and your mind is drawing a blank, so is hers. And when you walk up all that is going through her mind is "OMG, he's actually coming over! omg omg omg!" Just have a canned opener and roll with the punches til the both of you get more comfortable. No one expects a perfect opener so just say something
 
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MF, I think you might be right about her part cause she was stuttering and saying "uh....uh...uh".

No it was not like an approach, just some girl in my class who I decided to approach and told her to be my partner for a project.

How do I STOP drawing blanks, because my mind is drawing blanks even on some questions I know the answer to and I would say it right if it weren't for the eye contact
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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because my mind is drawing blanks even on some questions I know the answer to
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hb: what's your name?
you: uh...uh...um...

lol. i know what you guys mean though, just don't think about it much, and try to focus on what she is saying. that way, you'll naturally make ec without thinking about it.
 
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