"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I can hold Eye Contact but nothing comes to mind

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Well It's very easy for me to hold eye contact with a girl during a conversation with her holding it with me. However, Whenever I hold eye contact for a over 4 seconds, I end up with understanding nothing she said, and when I try to answer a question that requires SOME thinking while holding eye contact, I get somewhat blank like my head ain't operating.

Is this because I am concentrating too much energy on eye contact?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You are thinking about it too much. Just relax and listent to what she is saying, hopefully you are able to concentrate on more the one thing at once.
 
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when you hold ec for 5 seconds and your mind is drawing a blank, so is hers. And when you walk up all that is going through her mind is "OMG, he's actually coming over! omg omg omg!" Just have a canned opener and roll with the punches til the both of you get more comfortable. No one expects a perfect opener so just say something
 
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MF, I think you might be right about her part cause she was stuttering and saying "uh....uh...uh".

No it was not like an approach, just some girl in my class who I decided to approach and told her to be my partner for a project.

How do I STOP drawing blanks, because my mind is drawing blanks even on some questions I know the answer to and I would say it right if it weren't for the eye contact
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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because my mind is drawing blanks even on some questions I know the answer to
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hb: what's your name?
you: uh...uh...um...

lol. i know what you guys mean though, just don't think about it much, and try to focus on what she is saying. that way, you'll naturally make ec without thinking about it.
 
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