"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I broke up with my GF

amoka

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Yup, I broke up with my girlfriend yesturday and she is begging me to take her back. The problem is she wants me to be with her and go wherever she goes most of the time and I do not have the time to do that with her. She is an attention whore. She said it she won't demand so much of my time anymore and that she is willing to change. I don't know whethere to take her back or not.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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drmeathead

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unless you are playing games on this thread, you were always *****ing about her. stay the **** away or it will be the same **** again and again. she is begging you back because she didnt find anyone worthy enough on that dating site you hate she is on. dude read your posts and realize what a **** head you were dating. be confident that you did the right thing.
 

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drmeathead said:
unless you are playing games on this thread, you were always *****ing about her. stay the **** away or it will be the same **** again and again. she is begging you back because she didnt find anyone worthy enough on that dating site you hate she is on. dude read your posts and realize what a **** head you were dating. be confident that you did the right thing.
I appreciate your input but I have no idea, whatsover, what you're talking about. Which dating site are you refering too? Perhaps you've confused me with someone else.
 

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I do know girlfriends who have finally freaked out and changed after the guy dumped them. After getting back together, they do their best to accommodate you.

I would give her one last chance. Make it clear that you are going to see her 4 times a week at the most.
 

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my bad....you posted on that topic. i am in error.

my ex wanted all my time. i was on surgical rotation one day and didnt have time to answer her texts so that meant i was cheating. i was a jerk for coaching a little league baseball team and didnt take into consideration she wanted me to help her study for her exams. all kinds of stuff like that. of course she would change, she said. she did right up until things got a little be stressful in her life and the insecurites voices started sqwakin. insecure girls are like that due to developmental baggage...first boyfriends, daddy issues whatever. you cant fix em. i tried more than a man should. you can put sugar on **** but it still aint candy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It can happen like advice #4. It can also happen like advice #5.

Your call.
 
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