"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I broke up with him over text

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Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I am afraid you are on the wrong forum. This is a site for men to discuss their interactions with women. If you're looking for "emotional support" after breaking up with your ex, there's a million other sites that are more suited for that purpose.
 
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Nope, I'm looking for an opinion from a guys perspective if this ever happen.

Like what would you do given the circumstance?
Would you go NC?
For how long?
Would you answer the questions thrown at?
Would you give closure?
Would you just move on?
 
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For me I really don't care if a woman breaks things off with me over text. I usually just respond with "OK" and leave it at that. But you can't control what other people do only what you do and how you respond to their actions. Personally I would never break up over text or voice mail because it doesn't really feel like a breakup.

Ask yourself if you would mind if this happened to you and you will have your answer.

How is he going to respond? I don't know because I don't know him. If he's swallowed the Red Pill you won't hear from him again unless you reach out to him first. If he hasn't he'll contact you again.
 
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So in your case, you would still reply?

What's the red pill? I don't get it...

We're in a LDR that's why if I can't call him, I resort to text messaging.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ill just offer my opinion but if hes so shady why do you care? Good sign that this would be time to move on...
 
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"Red Pill" - it's a Matrix reference: in the movie, Neo is given the choice of one of two pills to take. The "Red Pill" is the one that causes him to see reality as it really is and not the way he's seen it this whole time. In reference to dating: a guy that's able to see how the dating game REALLY works and learns how to use that knowledge to his advantage has, in effect, taken the "red pill."

SOOOO... if he's taken the "red pill," he knows the best course of action is to NOT respond to you, which will, in turn, cause YOU to do all the work of getting him back. As for the whole "break up via text" thing: for one, it doesn't matter how you did the break up, it was always going to suck. And two, I've gotten broken up with a girl via text before, and my response was the same: "Ok." Like, in my view if you want to leave, it means I'm not making you happy in some way and everyone has the right to be with someone who makes them happy. With that said, I know a lot of girls use the whole "break up" tactic as a means of getting the guy to realize what he's losing and come back to her begging for another chance. I imagine this is what was going through your head when you did this (or maybe not) and that would have worked... on another GIRL. However, guys are more direct and you would have been better off saying you wanted to talk about an issue that was bothering you vs. going into full on "break up" mode.
 
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How do you know the 4th person is telling you the truth? Anyway, this is a totally inappropriate forums for you to pose such questions. This is largely a support group for IT guys who have problems getting involved with women.

Look at your situation in a positive light: at least you have no problems meeting the opposite sex. If you and this guy do separate, another guy is around the corner.
 
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OP, tell your ex to make an account on this site and let us help him get over you really quick. We will have him laid within the week and within two weeks he won't even remember a thing about you. Being the kind man that he is, you would want that for him, wouldn't you?
 
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Kjill said:
Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him
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I dont post alot due to me being a dumbass in the past...

BUT WTF is up with all the woman on a mans forum ??

Colour me crazy but someything just doesnt ring right with this
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Here is an advice I will give my sister.
Never get involved when you know or feel like he stays in contact with his ex girl or wife.Plus they have a child together ...never a good sign.

Just find a new man or learn to focus and love your self ...the next guy will come along.

If you are young , learn from this and learn to love yourself.
 
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Kjill said:
Out of anger when someone(4th person actually) told me that I'm his side girl and he's still with his so-called ex. They have a child together.

I told the reason over text and I was actually asking if it's true...but he can't be contacted over phone.
Text is our main channel of communication. I wanted to call him but he always ignore my calls....

I texted him asking about the truth...
Is it right for me to even expect an explanation? He's a shady person in general...even his relatives no little about him
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We need photo confirmation that you're actually a chick.
 
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The OP could be a troll with nothing better to do.
 
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Bokanovsky said:
I am afraid you are on the wrong forum. This is a site for men to discuss their interactions with women. If you're looking for "emotional support" after breaking up with your ex, there's a million other sites that are more suited for that purpose.
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She could be interested in both men and women.
 
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Based on what you have shared, it is obvious this guy is not interested and his actions speak very clearly. Do yourself a favour and lose his number, he's not expecting any explanation from you. Find a gentleman who is single and available without all that baby mama drama instead of a texting buddy who sounds like a loser.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dith'thread'gon'be'good!
 
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MMen posing as women, seems to be the popular troll around here recently.

Moderators please, this is a Man's Dating Tips website. Please get rid of these 'chicks.'
 
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