"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I breached the friendzone, now what?

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Theres this girl that I have been friends with for a long time. We have always been very flirty with each other and sexual tension has always been present. I always thought that i was stuck in the friendzone with her though because it never went past casual flirting and she always had other guys. Last night we were at her place watching a movie. I was playfully teasing her and flirting like I always do with her and she jumped on me and started play fighting with me. Well that led to kissing which ulitimatley led to sex.

She is very attractive physically and I guess you can say that I got a taste of the "forbidden fruit" of a friend. My problem now is that I don't know where to go with this. She is the kind of girl that I would date, but I really don't want a girlfriend right now. I didn't see her today because we both had to work but we texted a little bit and I just acted like things haven't changed she acted the same. I know in her mind though things are not the same and she is wondering how i feel about the whole situation. She has been wanting a boyfriend for a while now and I think that by having sex with someone she is close to and trusts alot(that would be me)would push her towards trying to become exclusive with me, but I don't want a girlfriend but I know in her mind she will think I just used her for sex. I think I really f*cked up because I could possible lose a really good friend because of this.

So how do I handle this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well, as I said we were hanging out and there has always been sexual tension between us and things just happened. She is also a HB8 and it was just hard not to give in to my physical impulses.
 
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dont worry u both are human just act normal ur not in the friendzone ur in the f-buddy zone just go with it and let her kno you want to kep things as they are for now
 
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I'm curious as to how you got to be a "friend" to begin with ;)

I'm never "friends" with women.. it's like having a job that doesn't pay.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She was friends with a girl that I was dating a few years ago and we just became good friends and we stayed friends after me and my gf broke up.
 
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I call b*llsh*t on this whole story. The girl finally f*cks the guy was who was in the back watching all frustrated like? Girls don't just all the sudden let loose like that. Even so, why are you asking people on here what to do?
 
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OFWHAP said:
I call b*llsh*t on this whole story. The girl finally f*cks the guy was who was in the back watching all frustrated like? Girls don't just all the sudden let loose like that. Even so, why are you asking people on here what to do?
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I don't think the OP was all "frustrated in the back" (whatever the fvck that means...), he said himself they were always flirty and had sexual tension. I've had that with some friends myself . Just because you're friends with a girl doesn't mean you're a clueless AFC.

To the OP, obviously she liked what you were doing enough in this friendship to become sexually attracted to you. If she pushes for a relationship, just ignore it. You will not lose a friend for fvcking her. It might be awkward for awhile, but eventually things will go back to normal and you might be able to nail her as a friend with benefits. Just don't change your behavior to a wussy AFC or she'll lose respect for you and THEN the friendship will most likely be damaged.
 
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