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penkitten said:thats what i thought about someone sleeping with their friend's wife while he is out of town.
I see your point and for the most part agree. I don't view this as one of my finer moments.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penkitten said:thats what i thought about someone sleeping with their friend's wife while he is out of town.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks man. I appreciate it. It's a tough time right now and the last thing I need is people telling me what I did was wrong, because I know it was wrong.Bvbidd said:She was being the wh0re, not him.
I would tell him. It will be better for you in the long run. Hopefully he will see the bigger picture. But if he doesn't, forget him and just forget that you ever met these people (unless that ***** wants another spanking, then thats your choice). As bad as it sounds, its best to get away from these kinds of problems. Even if you were part of the start of it.shop until I die! said:Thanks man. I appreciate it. It's a tough time right now and the last thing I need is people telling me what I did was wrong, because I know it was wrong.
I just need help on what to do now.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bvbidd said:She was being the wh0re, not him.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
And the morals of this uplifting fairytale ARE:shop until I die! said:And let me say this, she is rediculously hot. Blonde, crystal blue eyes, 5'11", 120 pounds, and for 120 pounds she has a huge rack and great behind. A knockout.
she was curious to say what I looked like naked because one of my ex's is her good friend and she heard that I had a big ****. And I asked why she cared since she is married and she said that tim wasn't very big and she was just curious.
My friend comes home in a few days and I don't know what to do, she said she wont tell him and now I'm getting these texts from her like "again tonight?" and "it hurt and I loved it."
wayword said:And the morals of this uplifting fairytale ARE:
1. Some girls care more about size than others. And it's generally the hot "self-entitled" ones who feel they "deserve" a bigger "package." So, you want a HOT chick - you generally better be packin' some meat. Only those (less attractive girls) who feel they have less choice "don't care."
2. Who needs "Game" or artifical "alpha" status when you got a big dik and referrals?
3. Don't trust women and don't marry. Or if you do, just realize you are taking some HUGE risks...!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I agree. You should write a letter, since it might be too hard to say face to face. Atleast respect him enough as a man to come clean about his ***** wife, don't let him just be a fool if he doesn't deserve that.fresh_to_death said:Tell your friend. No other way out. Don't back down and disappear, that's some unbelievably weak ****.
Tony's got a point, man. If I believed this story, which I'm skeptical about, then my advice is to tell him. Don't blame her. Own up to it. You screwed up BIG time. No "little mistake." You messed up. Best you can do is admit it, get it all in the open.TonyWongButOhSoRite said:Are you an idiot? Do you have any control over that thing you call a penis? Serioulsy man you're a dummy. I mean Id say something if it was you're mans girlfriend but his wife! Come on man, You're a tit. Tell him what you did cause its unfair on him to know he's married to a skank who would sleep with some guy who would use ''shop until I die'' as a username on a site for real men. Anyways stuff like this always comes out in the end and it would be better now if you told him then in a few months time or something when the wife says it and he realise's you've just played him for an even bigger dummy than what you already have. Plus you're just gonna worry about it yourself till it does come out. Post up the damge caused when he finds out will ya. Sould be funny.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.