You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
But I attract the right kind of women.
Yes but you have to go through about 6 God awful ones that half ruin your mind and soul before you find that decent one and then when you do you can't recognize her until months after you have kicked her to the curb for the most minor thing you can find.
I always attract the girl with 2-3 tats and was a fun bar party girl through college who is now straightened up. Not a ***** type girl, they always have a low count, but I am clean cut, preppy ex super athlete who always had cheerleader gf's but now it is always these " I like tats and piercings" girls who go for me and I have none. Not sure what it is. I look preppy but I boxed so I dont know if they think that is "bad boy" or what and attracts them, but they dont learn that about me until down the road. I truly dont get it, I accept tats but dont like them they arent attractive to me. I just cant understand today's girl.
That may in itself be the reason you attract them. You're not trouble and to these troubled women it's hard to find a guy who doesn't mean trouble. They want what you have, they want to know how to not end up in trouble. They may not be aware that they want this, but somewhere deep inside that's what they really want.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.