my gf tells me after i ask her to give me a answer, does she want marriage and or children ? no. amazing. she told me she did from the first date. anyway, i asked her that i needed to know or i would go with other women that are interested. her response was no and go make your decision. i wish you luck. a month ago, she was asked and she decided she could not make a decision at that time. now she said this, meanwhilw\e, she is the one to bring it up since we met. should i believe her and move on. what is going on with her thanks guys. you are the best. i appreciate your ideas. /catera
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i asked my gf if she wants me or not ?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Always go for the first reply - it is the most honest!!! Women think of these things way before a man asks them!
PuertoRican_Lover
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Two possibilities
1. Maybe she lied on the first date because she liked you and she knew you wanted children. But how she feels bad for misleading you
2. Maybe she told the truth on the first date and is lying to you now because she knows you will not stay with a woman that doesn't want kids. Maybe she doesn't want children from you but with someone else. Anyway you must decide her truthfulness by the sincerity in her tone and response.
Hell, tell her to quit bull****ting - I would take her wishy-washy behavior as a 'No' - she doesn't want kids!!! Fuvk the mind games! If you want kids - stay away from this girl!!
1. Maybe she lied on the first date because she liked you and she knew you wanted children. But how she feels bad for misleading you
2. Maybe she told the truth on the first date and is lying to you now because she knows you will not stay with a woman that doesn't want kids. Maybe she doesn't want children from you but with someone else. Anyway you must decide her truthfulness by the sincerity in her tone and response.
Hell, tell her to quit bull****ting - I would take her wishy-washy behavior as a 'No' - she doesn't want kids!!! Fuvk the mind games! If you want kids - stay away from this girl!!
why is she acting this way ?
i can not figure her out ? after all this time together she says she wants no children and no marriage. i told her that i needed an answer or i would go to other girls who are interested . she said no to all and told me go make your decision on marriage, have a good life. what is this nonsense. so i told her she should have told me this from the beginning and not wasted my time. is she playing a game ? is it that she does not think i will hook up with anyone else ? what is her problem ? how does a dj handle this ? thanks guys./catera
i can not figure her out ? after all this time together she says she wants no children and no marriage. i told her that i needed an answer or i would go to other girls who are interested . she said no to all and told me go make your decision on marriage, have a good life. what is this nonsense. so i told her she should have told me this from the beginning and not wasted my time. is she playing a game ? is it that she does not think i will hook up with anyone else ? what is her problem ? how does a dj handle this ? thanks guys./catera
It could be one of two things:
1. She REALLY doesn't want marriage and/or kids... is she a career woman?
2. She doesn't want marriage and/or kids with you...
Either way, if that is what you are looking for, then you are wasting your time. Wind back the relationship a little bit, make it more light-hearted and fun, stay away from the serious issues. Keep her around while you find another woman. It's a lot easier to get another girl when you already have one.
Also, if you tell new prospective women that you broke up with the last girl because she didn't want marriage/kids, you will scare a few of them off, even though they may be looking for the same thing... too serious too fast.
1. She REALLY doesn't want marriage and/or kids... is she a career woman?
2. She doesn't want marriage and/or kids with you...
Either way, if that is what you are looking for, then you are wasting your time. Wind back the relationship a little bit, make it more light-hearted and fun, stay away from the serious issues. Keep her around while you find another woman. It's a lot easier to get another girl when you already have one.
Also, if you tell new prospective women that you broke up with the last girl because she didn't want marriage/kids, you will scare a few of them off, even though they may be looking for the same thing... too serious too fast.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are being screwed around. I remember you posting ages ago about problems with this same girl, no?
Her IL is not high enough, and I DOUBT you can raise it.
When you give her an ultimatum like, "answer or I am going to find other woman", what do you expect her answer to be? You cant just phrase things like that with girls. You can ask her to marry you, do it in a romantic way, and see what happens! But too late now!! She is probably calling you on your sh*t tests, she is seeing if you are actually going to do what you say! i.e. go and find other woman. If you truly do and leave her, getting on with your life, and TRULY getting on with your life, she MIGHT want you back. If you dont, which you probably wont, you will look like a little wuss who talks the talk, but cant walk the walk, this will loose you nearly all your respect in her eyes!
Her IL is not high enough, and I DOUBT you can raise it.
When you give her an ultimatum like, "answer or I am going to find other woman", what do you expect her answer to be? You cant just phrase things like that with girls. You can ask her to marry you, do it in a romantic way, and see what happens! But too late now!! She is probably calling you on your sh*t tests, she is seeing if you are actually going to do what you say! i.e. go and find other woman. If you truly do and leave her, getting on with your life, and TRULY getting on with your life, she MIGHT want you back. If you dont, which you probably wont, you will look like a little wuss who talks the talk, but cant walk the walk, this will loose you nearly all your respect in her eyes!