"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I asked a girl out with a text message
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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You should probably have phoned
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Women dont see texting as actual communication for some reason.. they think it is several steps below... So it is their BS method of choice... Avoiding texting as much as you can...Kuwi said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Why wouldn't they? All girls do IS text!DonGorgon said:
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I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Learn to be a MAN. Read the DJ Bible.Kuwi said:
Kuwi said:
You absolutely do not ask a girl out with a text message or a voice mail. You call, speak to her, and you make plans (and it has to be your plans, not hers). Then you go meet her out. Give her 20 minutes to call or show up, and if she's late, then you leave and don't call her again if she doesn't show. You end it there, and if she calls you one day apologizing, tell her you were so busy that you didn't make it either. Never let 'em see you sweat.
All you've done is given her a way out. A way to flake easily. At least if you ask her straight up, she will see some of your dominance. Now all she has to say is that she never got the text.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdaq3tBUKbY
Scars
Master Don Juan
If she really likes you, even if she got the text she might pretend like she didn't get it. So next time you see her IRL, just ask her out face to face. She might be giving you a second chance.