"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I asked a girl out with a text message
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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You should probably have phoned
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Women dont see texting as actual communication for some reason.. they think it is several steps below... So it is their BS method of choice... Avoiding texting as much as you can...Kuwi said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Why wouldn't they? All girls do IS text!DonGorgon said:
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I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Learn to be a MAN. Read the DJ Bible.Kuwi said:
Kuwi said:
You absolutely do not ask a girl out with a text message or a voice mail. You call, speak to her, and you make plans (and it has to be your plans, not hers). Then you go meet her out. Give her 20 minutes to call or show up, and if she's late, then you leave and don't call her again if she doesn't show. You end it there, and if she calls you one day apologizing, tell her you were so busy that you didn't make it either. Never let 'em see you sweat.
All you've done is given her a way out. A way to flake easily. At least if you ask her straight up, she will see some of your dominance. Now all she has to say is that she never got the text.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdaq3tBUKbY
Scars
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If she really likes you, even if she got the text she might pretend like she didn't get it. So next time you see her IRL, just ask her out face to face. She might be giving you a second chance.