"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I asked a girl out with a text message
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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You should probably have phoned
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Women dont see texting as actual communication for some reason.. they think it is several steps below... So it is their BS method of choice... Avoiding texting as much as you can...Kuwi said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Why wouldn't they? All girls do IS text!DonGorgon said:
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I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Learn to be a MAN. Read the DJ Bible.Kuwi said:
Kuwi said:
You absolutely do not ask a girl out with a text message or a voice mail. You call, speak to her, and you make plans (and it has to be your plans, not hers). Then you go meet her out. Give her 20 minutes to call or show up, and if she's late, then you leave and don't call her again if she doesn't show. You end it there, and if she calls you one day apologizing, tell her you were so busy that you didn't make it either. Never let 'em see you sweat.
All you've done is given her a way out. A way to flake easily. At least if you ask her straight up, she will see some of your dominance. Now all she has to say is that she never got the text.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdaq3tBUKbY
Scars
Master Don Juan
If she really likes you, even if she got the text she might pretend like she didn't get it. So next time you see her IRL, just ask her out face to face. She might be giving you a second chance.