I ask her out to a bar, she says "YES!" and invites her friend?

[MyTeamSupreme]

Why did this happen? Me made plans to go out to a bar on a Wednesday night (plans were made Sunday). The day that we're supposed to hang out we're talking and she says "oh my bff is on the other line"...I get a text saying "this is kind of important, you'll meet her when we go out tonight. I end up with two broads in my car instead of the one that I was trying to focus on and I'm trying to figure out what the hell went on...why did this chick invite her friend to hang out with us

 

[evansblue]

I end up with two broads in my car instead of the one that I was trying to focus on

lmao!

What the hell were you thinking?? You didn't notice the red flag when she said her friend was going to tag along?? And you went along with it?

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

was i supposed to say "oh, your invited your friend? have fun..im not going anymore"?

 

[evansblue]

I probably would have deleted the number and not responded at all.

That's not a lead bro, that's going nowhere.

 

[GhostWriter]

That means she's not comfortable or isn't attracted enough to be alone with just the two of you.

A complete waste of time from my experience.

 

[iqqi]

It sounds like she took your invitation as an informal one. Either she is unaware that you wanted it to be a date, maybe she thinks this because bars are social places where friends PLURAL meet up, or then again maybe she is avoiding your wish to date her formally. I'd say you need to read her a little bit better.

As a matter of fact, you didn't even say what happened on your "date". Are you acting like you just want to be a buddy?

 

[Drdeee]

U paid for all the drinks too?

I say she wanted to hook u up with her - uglier - friend.

 

[HariPoter13]

I say she wanted to hook u up with her friend.

I think this

 

[Drdeee]

In any click of friends there will be a hottie and an uglier chick. Like if she's 7 her friend would be 6.5. A 6.5 would not give a guy to her hotter friend, only the other way around, and only because the guy isn't up to her standards. They say they have a bf right now but that's bs.

I'd set up another bar night and bring my fat friend alone.

 

[Mike32ct]

Either way it's a sign of friendzone. Delete her number.

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

U paid for all the drinks too?

I say she wanted to hook u up with her - uglier - friend.

lol, no

Her friend was ridiculously attractive though...Better looking than her

Either way it's a sign of friendzone. Delete her number.

Elaborate

 

[oneboy21]

Was this chick very insecure of her looks
she might trying to DHV her status in front of you. My guess

 

[Iceberg]

was i supposed to say "oh, your invited your friend? have fun..im not going anymore"?

Well, what I've said in this situation is: "Yeah. I don't feel like being a third wheel. I'll catch you another time when you're free."

Elaborate

It's not necessarily a 100% guarantee of Friend Zone. But if she thought this were a date, or date-like situation, she wouldn't have brought a 3rd person along.

This could mean that she's not interested. Or that you never made it clear that you're inviting her out because you're sexually interested in her. Not that you have to make that clear verbally....but somehow it must be expressed. "I'm man. You're woman."

 

[SecondHalf]

Matters not.
There will be more interest from the other ladies at the bar. I'd have taken them and used them as wingmen. Would be an interesting social experiment.
She or her friend might get more interest in you just by doing this

SH

 

[Mike32ct]

lol, no

Her friend was ridiculously attractive though...Better looking than her



Elaborate

She either considered it a friendly get together and/or she wasn't sufficiently attracted to go out alone with you.

I probably jumped to conclusions a bit. It's not a guarantee of friendzone, but bringing a friend is seldom a good sign given the two possibilities listed above.

So how did this get together go? What happened at the bar?

 

[Chamber36]

The attraction may have been there, but maybe the comfort wasn't there.

I got a number from an HB9 who seemed super interested, she said she wanted to bring her friend, and never answered my text. I think it's that my intentions were a bit too obvious. All i did was go in, chit chat, get the number and go out.

Women just don't operate logically, they operate emotionally. So i think they need security. From what I've been studying the past few days, you need to "justify" anything you suggest to a girl, so that they feel secure with making a decision to go along with you.

 

[Jeffst1980]

It could be that you didn't make your intentions clear, or it could be that she's inexperienced and felt "safer" with a friend. I would try it again- this time making it clear with a "I want you to come with me..." statement. Or, if you feel she wasn't all that interested, try to get the hotter friend's contact info.