"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Miles Davis

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Guys, I've been on these boards for a few years and have been doing this DJ thing for a while now. In the past few weeks though, I've really just been confident and this feels like it's here to stay forever. It's the result of getting my sh*t together all around. The thing is, I am not at all used to this. I'm not used to having 8's and 9's give me huge buying signals. I think it's the suddenness of this whole thing that's throwing me off...getting results without even trying. Anyone else who's undergone positive change, how've you suppressed your illogical thoughts and fears? I might be envoking jealousy in my friends, and do not want to do so. I am friendly with everyone so I don't think this it's a problem...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How exactly are you presenting yourself to these 8's and 9's?

How do you dress each day before you go out?

What are you saying to the 8's and 9's when you meet them?

How do you meet these chicks?
 
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I truly believe you can read all the advice a million times over and not have it work for you in 50 years......it's not until you can find that confident place inside yourself where you say I AM UNSTOPABLE that this advice really begins to help your game, even then the advice accounts for like 25% of your success. Miles is a prime example. Reading all of Pooks posts a thousand times won't help unless you can tap into your mind and find a flame. And once you find if let it burn like a wildfire. Congradulations man.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Dominant
How exactly are you presenting yourself to these 8's and 9's?

How do you dress each day before you go out?

What are you saying to the 8's and 9's when you meet them?

How do you meet these chicks?
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Dominant,

I will try my best to answer your questions but do not guarantee I can give you a logical answer. And I'll tell you why, it is because these questions do not enter my head at any point when I'm talking with women.

I'll tell you what REALLY helps, though. Living in the moment. ALWAYS take your time and be relaxed, and you just cannot go wrong. When you do go wrong, remain relaxed! and you'll realize that there is no wrong as long as your are composed and know who you are deep down at all times.
 
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Dominant:
How exactly are you presenting yourself to these 8's and 9's?

How do you dress each day before you go out?

What are you saying to the 8's and 9's when you meet them?

How do you meet these chicks?
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It's just how it is, plain and simple. I'm not at all player yet, hell I'm still a virgin, but I have read a several posts about guys easily getting chicks without doing almost anything at all.

And that's the person I want to be. The DJ Bible and/or mASF WILL get you there. You just have to do what it says. That is what they have done and you need to do it too.
 
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Originally posted by Miles Davis
Dominant,

I will try my best to answer your questions but do not guarantee I can give you a logical answer. And I'll tell you why, it is because these questions do not enter my head at any point when I'm talking with women.

I'll tell you what REALLY helps, though. Living in the moment. ALWAYS take your time and be relaxed, and you just cannot go wrong. When you do go wrong, remain relaxed! and you'll realize that there is no wrong as long as your are composed and know who you are deep down at all times.
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You can answer some of these questions. Yeah, after you keep the hard work, things become natural and you become a more natural DJ/PUA/Player.

But, even though I'm doing well now and am getting pretty natural, I can still give someone specifics on how I run my game. I can tell a person how I present myself to women, where I meet most of my women, how I dress.

I'm not really asking for tips. I'm just curious on how you do your thing.

Peace,
-Dominant
 
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yeah i always try to make new friends. It introduces you to a whole network of new people.
 
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