I am totally intimidated by the HB9s and HB10s

[venser]

Hey all.

I've never had much trouble getting women, in High School i think I've had my fill of quite a number, all of them above HB6 at the very least. However, I've never gotten with a HB9 or HB10 except with random hook-ups where i never see the girl again.

Anyways, this is has always been my comfort zone and the 9s and 10s never really bothered with me. Recently though, maybe 6 months ago? i think i've gotten alot better looking or somehting (lol), i have no idea but i'm getting alot more iois and girls just tend to crush on me a lot more. I am sophomore in college at the moment and while most of the girls who like me are girls i'd never get with (ever), there is a HB9-10 in one of my classes who i've been hanging out with alittle.

Now this is all fine and dandy except that she used to go to my HS (a year older) and I definately (along with half the guys in my grade) used to idolise her. Now that she's relatively in reach, Im amazed. EXCEPT, she terrifies me. I find that I can't be CF, I can't crack as many jokes as I would normally with other girls, I'm just in all totally intimidated by her. And i'm totalyl going to be friend-zoned if I don't do something soon.

Guys, help me grow some balls. lol.

but seriously, i'd really like some help, and if your going to just say something like "grow the **** up!" just don't waste your time. I know what hwat i need to do. I just don't know how to do it. Girls don't scare me, but this one does. And i guess some otehr HB10s.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Say, "Hey HB, are you following me around? You were in my high school at 'name of school'"

HB; "I never saw you before!"

Venser:"Were you blind then?"

 

[venser]

haha i'll file it for future use.

I dont need an icebreaker though. we've hung out a few times already now. (no thanks to me) She's pretty much initiated everything. And i just feel like my luck is going to run out soon.

 

[Cremasta]

Girls don't scare me, but this one does.

Just remember the old saying "No matter how good she looks now, somewhere, someone is tired of her shyt!"

She's still human and it's just as likely as any other girl that when you get to know her, you'll wish that she would just piss off. Don't put her on a pedestal, she probably doesn't deserve it.

 

[mahon83050]

Just remember the old saying "No matter how good she looks now, somewhere, someone is tired of her shyt!"

She's still human and it's just as likely as any other girl that when you get to know her, you'll wish that she would just piss off. Don't put her on a pedestal, she probably doesn't deserve it.

I know beauty is somewhat objective and the more facial balance and symmetry a face has, the better looking it is.

However, this article does have some truth to it. Reading this will make you feel that you are NOT in competition with every guy out there and not every guy sees your 9/10 as a 9/10.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/perfect.htm

 

[Maxtro]

I used to have this problem, but then it just went away. Now my problem is the opposite where I only feel comfortable talking to the hottest chicks

IMO you should focus on yourself and improve your confidence and self-esteem. You need to understand that no matter how good she looks, no woman is better than you.

 

[mahon83050]

I used to have this problem, but then it just went away. Now my problem is the opposite where I only feel comfortable talking to the hottest chicks

IMO you should focus on yourself and improve your confidence and self-esteem. You need to understand that no matter how good she looks, no woman is better than you.

Yeah, I used to think saying "a girl is out of my league" that I was being humble and honest.

If you think she is out of your league you are hurting your self-esteem and confidence because you are saying you are inferior and not good enough.

 

[DJDamage]

You are putting them on the pedestal, you need to stop that. You need to try and talk to them without feeling the need to impress them, they should be the one that need to impress you! and if not fvck 'em (this is where you use negs effectively on HB's and that's when they try to prove themsleves to you). Once you get to know them a bit you discover that they are flesh and blood like you are and have bigger issues and insecurities then you do.

 

[DJKid]

I've been there before dude. Everyone is equal as a human being though. Make sure you use higher value when talking to her.

 

[saber]

I used to be worse than you 4 sure but I have absolutely zero fear now when talking to women...although it doesn't always go well lol...

details would help but I think I know whats going on...

after a few years i saw my oneitis and for the first time in a looong time those feelings swelled over me and I felt awkward? or not able to act normal but I quickly nuetralized that by humanizing her and imagining her doing things like fvcking, dropping a duece, falling asleep eating kfc in bed or whatever

also I upped the kino to break the sexual tension because I had realized she is a very touchy person

You spent your highscool years idolizing her, so to speak, and thats a lot of mental conditioning to break so it won't happen over night but this should help change lower her value to something under demigod

good luck

 

[Answers]

If you see her as being better than you she'll see you as being not good enough for her! If you want her you'll have to change how you see yourself and others.

 

[venser]

I used to be worse than you 4 sure but I have absolutely zero fear now when talking to women...although it doesn't always go well lol...

details would help but I think I know whats going on...

after a few years i saw my oneitis and for the first time in a looong time those feelings swelled over me and I felt awkward? or not able to act normal but I quickly nuetralized that by humanizing her and imagining her doing things like fvcking, dropping a duece, falling asleep eating kfc in bed or whatever

also I upped the kino to break the sexual tension because I had realized she is a very touchy person

You spent your highscool years idolizing her, so to speak, and thats a lot of mental conditioning to break so it won't happen over night but this should help change lower her value to something under demigod

good luck

yeah i really think you know what im talking about. It's hard to do so, i mean i know what I have to do, as almost all you have pointed out im really putting her on a pedastal and i need to take her off.

its just a mental barrier to get past i suppose.

 

[DonJuan11]

Now this is all fine and dandy except that she used to go to my HS (a year older) and I definately (along with half the guys in my grade) used to idolise her. Now that she's relatively in reach, Im amazed. EXCEPT, she terrifies me. I find that I can't be CF, I can't crack as many jokes as I would normally with other girls, I'm just in all totally intimidated by her. And i'm totalyl going to be friend-zoned if I don't do something soon.

Girls don't scare me, but this one does.

Pick something you don't like about her, and obsess about it.

 

[DJ Snake Eyes]

I feel quite tentative about them myself, but I saw some cool tips.

DJ Snake Eyes