"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I am tired of Hook ups and ONS.

SharinganUser

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I am going to cut down on my drinking and my ONS, hook ups. I have just been getting a little stressed over getting std's, ect... Also the ONS haven't been very good and they've been more trouble than they're worth. ie, I met a girl at a bar and it took me hours to take her back to my hotel, She kept asking me where the hotel is(she didn't speak much english) and we didn't get to my hotel until 7:30 am. At which point I didn't have the energy to bang her for very long. Was it worth it to put up with her *****ing for about 4 or 5 hours? No. Another girl I hooked up with a few weeks ago was so lazy in bed, I had to do all the work.

That only covers the sex part. I am going to cut down on drinking because the hangovers are making me fat and unproductive.

I've only ever slept with 9 women but I'd say that only about 3 or 4 were good in bed. I am gonna start looking for a gf or f-buddy that I can trust. I am not saying I am going straight edge, just going to cut it down.

Lesson learned: Women can be just as troublesome when you have 'em as when you don't have them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ThunderMaverick

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I went through the same thing several weeks ago. ONS just aren't the same as girls that you have good chemistry with.


Put that sharingan to use and weed out the ones who'll cause you grief.

Me on the other hand I've got...

....BYAKUUGAN!!!!
 

DonJuan11

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SharinganUser said:
I've only ever slept with 9 women but I'd say that only about 3 or 4 were good in bed. I am gonna start looking for a gf or f-buddy that I can trust. I am not saying I am going straight edge, just going to cut it down.

Lesson learned: Women can be just as troublesome when you have 'em as when you don't have them.
That is not a lesson, that is your opinion. Try telling someone who can't pay rent that money is as troublesome when you have it as when you don't have it.

ONS = One Night Stand
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SharinganUser said:
I am going to cut down on my drinking and my ONS, hook ups. I have just been getting a little stressed over getting std's, ect...
I've only ever slept with 9 women but I'd say that only about 3 or 4 were good in bed. I am gonna start looking for a gf or f-buddy that I can trust. I am not saying I am going straight edge, just going to cut it down.

Lesson learned: Women can be just as troublesome when you have 'em as when you don't have them.
All hors ors are "good" in "bed" but terrible in REALITY!!!! FLEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

ThunderMaverick

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DonJuan11 said:
That is not a lesson, that is your opinion. Try telling someone who can't pay rent that money is as troublesome when you have it as when you don't have it.

ONS = One Night Stand

That could be considered your opinion too.

Suffering is a matter objectivity.
 

abcd_z

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ThunderMaverick said:
I went through the same thing several weeks ago. ONS just aren't the same as girls that you have good chemistry with.


Put that sharingan to use and weed out the ones who'll cause you grief.

Me on the other hand I've got...

....BYAKUUGAN!!!!
LOL
 

DonGorgon

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ONS are better than nothing at all and most young women are so ADD'ed that getting them to do you more than once is almost impossible its like their goals is to do as many men as possible by a certain age...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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