Joe, have you ever thought that maybe it's just your imagination that I am a "radical feminist"? Want the truth? I'm actually an anti-feminist/humanist. Don't believe me? Do a search of a Tip made by Pook called "Feminism on Trial" and check out all of the quotes of mine he used in that post. You might just be surprised what you find. There are right ways and wrong ways to counter the effects of feminism on society...spreading hatred, anger and behaving as bad as radical feminists only makes a man look like exactly what those nasty radical feminists claim them to be...and that's not doing yourself any favors. You just make those radical old hag bags look right about men which helps them make your situation even worse.Joe The Homophobe said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I am probably going to be leaving sosuave.net for good very soon...
- Thread starter Wyldfire
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hey, it's not my fault a few people missed the original point. Blame my landlord and their pain in the butt real estate agent for keeping me at home so much for all these damn house showings. I have to be here or my kid's little Jack Russell Terrier will either bite someone or pee all over their leg when they try to come inside. Hopefully the building will sell soon so I can get the hell out of the house more.italostud said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
And I don't care that no one cares...italostud said:
Rather than post on this thread, why don't you go check out the thread I started in General Discussion. It probably should of went in Tips, but you'd probably find that more interesting than this thread anyhow.
What is the purpose of this thread? Show me one innovative and helpful post by Wyldfire and then maybe this thread will have some merit. When Pook left, we lost a lot of innovative, inspirational content. When Senor Fingers left, we lost one of the most positive, uplifting, and experienced guys here.
What will be lost when Wyldfire leaves? A one-woman circus act. This entire thread is just more evidence in support of the complaints of Wyldfire's detractors.
As far as Jariel's bashing of the gurus, any links to this? With the exception of a few so-called "gurus" most have done far more good than bad for the community.
What will be lost when Wyldfire leaves? A one-woman circus act. This entire thread is just more evidence in support of the complaints of Wyldfire's detractors.
As far as Jariel's bashing of the gurus, any links to this? With the exception of a few so-called "gurus" most have done far more good than bad for the community.
You can start here:Duke said:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=24108
I also just started a pretty valuable thread in General Discussion earlier today. Of course...it's being hijacked...but what else is new.
Oh yeah...I have posts in the DJ Bible as well.
brucevangeorge
Banned
You're still here?
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
My thoughts too. Either leave or stay but please dont drag this out forever. Its getting old and irritating.brucevangeorge said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
These people are right. This is getthing dragged out forever.Brian20o2 said:
If wyldefire didn't like the insults and arguments, she would have left a long time ago. As Brian said, stay or leave. No member except Allen is indispensable, and he only cuz he owns this site and had some innovative ideas.
mods, please close this thread. It is a waste of time and I am surprised it hasn't become and all out flame war yet.
Wylde, if you are smart, you will let this subject drop.
quote and debate what I say if you want, but you will only prove my/our point.
Docs
Banned
204 posts? Nice.
my phone is ringing but im holding in a poop.... i can either go poop and miss the call, or hold it in and take the call
i dont know what i should do
this question has been racing through my mind for 5 minutes now
I CAN'T TAKE THIS
IM LEAVING SOSUAVE
i dont know what i should do
this question has been racing through my mind for 5 minutes nowI CAN'T TAKE THIS
IM LEAVING SOSUAVE
brucevangeorge
Banned
Looks like that 5 year old long e-beef has finally come out.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ever onward
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How can this thread end if everyone keeps posting in it? If people keep making comments towards Wylde then of course she will respond. If you want this thread to end, then don't post on it
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
I'm usually a reader not a guy who posts all the time, but this really pissed me off!!! To be honest Wyldfire....I have truly enjoyed all of your posts. Whether i agreed with them or not, the most important issue was YOU MADE ME THINK, BE MORE OPEN MINDED AND HAVE CONSIDERATION FOR THE ISSUE AT HAND REGARDLESS WHATEVER STANCE I HAD ON IT....
Intelligent people should learn how to AGREE TO DISAGREE, AND MOVE ON WITHOUT HAVING ANY ANIMOSITY. Oh and by the way you mods,
1. Unless she has shown ABSOLUTE, BLANTANT DISREGARD FOR EVERYONE...she should feel free to voice her opinion as long as she does it somewhat tastefully which includes defending herself, including mods!!!!
2. Why isn't she a moderator yet??? this truly baffles me :trouble: \
Wyldfire I truly hope you don't go.....even the best guys need a slap in the face once in a while...you have my complete support, thanks
- Kingbeef
Intelligent people should learn how to AGREE TO DISAGREE, AND MOVE ON WITHOUT HAVING ANY ANIMOSITY. Oh and by the way you mods,
1. Unless she has shown ABSOLUTE, BLANTANT DISREGARD FOR EVERYONE...she should feel free to voice her opinion as long as she does it somewhat tastefully which includes defending herself, including mods!!!!
2. Why isn't she a moderator yet??? this truly baffles me :trouble: \
Wyldfire I truly hope you don't go.....even the best guys need a slap in the face once in a while...you have my complete support, thanks
- Kingbeef
Cesare Cardinali
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Wyldfire wrote
Quote:
"I have been informed that unless I learn to tolerate personal attacks and insults and not respond or defend myself that I am at risk to be banned".
I'm not sure which mod wrote that, but I think you are losely paraphrasing here or outright dramatizing. I think we are all at our wits end here on what to do with this situation. Every time anyone remotely disagrees with you, you end up in a full fledged flame war.
You seem to be unable to take this board and these posters with the grain of salt that this place necessitates. So I don't know why you would even want to post here or how you could enjoy the experience having to type up these monstrous posts defending your ideas all the time.
However, with that said, you haven't really done anything *wrong* that would necessitate a banning. But seriously, you need to chill out about this stuff and not take it so seriously.
Cesare Cardinali
Quote:
"I have been informed that unless I learn to tolerate personal attacks and insults and not respond or defend myself that I am at risk to be banned".
I'm not sure which mod wrote that, but I think you are losely paraphrasing here or outright dramatizing. I think we are all at our wits end here on what to do with this situation. Every time anyone remotely disagrees with you, you end up in a full fledged flame war.
You seem to be unable to take this board and these posters with the grain of salt that this place necessitates. So I don't know why you would even want to post here or how you could enjoy the experience having to type up these monstrous posts defending your ideas all the time.
However, with that said, you haven't really done anything *wrong* that would necessitate a banning. But seriously, you need to chill out about this stuff and not take it so seriously.
Cesare Cardinali
BingoBango
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This thread was clearly started by a woman.
Let's not even try to argue.
Let's not even try to argue.
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
Im pretty sure you just relit the fire and added wood...BingoBango said:
Mods please close this, Wyldfire isnt posting in it anymore and any more responses are just going to spark a flame war.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.