"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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See, that's another thing...I actually DO try to give constructive advice...and I put a lot of thought into the advice I give, too. Anytime I first post on a thread that's what I'm doing...giving advice
I know you give quality advice Wylde and I appreciate it. I did say that my comments were not directed at you. I was just on a rant about the low quality of advice that is actually given on this site and I posted it on your thread because a few posters were discussing the purpose of this site.

It's like you said

Too many guys on here are always responding with "NEXT!" or "Go read the Bible you stupid newbie!" Those posts don't teach anyone anything or help anyone. It just breeds more of the same low quality crap posts this place already has too many of.
Anyway, the only advice I have to give to you is the same advice I gave to you earlier. Just be yourself and respond in any way you choose and if they ban you for that, so be it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wyldefire, you are a veteran member and your advice is worth it. However, we can't keep you here, and it is your choice when to leave.

You could just ignore attacks on you.
 

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I intend to post how I always post. I pretty much made that clear in my first post that I won't just sit back and take crap. I just wanted to let everyone know that I was told I would be banned if I didn't accept a different set of rules and let Allen and the mods know that they would be banning a valued member for a really lousy reason. That's really about it. Things have kinda strayed back and forth to other topics and what not...but that's cool too...I'm not anal about keeping things rigidly on one topic. Some of the best discussions grow from something else.
 

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Then you will be banned. Sorry. Bottom line. I respect your atempt to stand on principle, and I can't remember ever attacking'insulting you, but it really is your choice if you want to be immature and just argue with those that insult you instead of ignoring the argument and going on with your life and onto new threads.
 

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wavejams007 said:
Then you will be banned. Sorry. Bottom line. I respect your atempt to stand on principle, and I can't remember ever attacking'insulting you, but it really is your choice if you want to be immature and just argue with those that insult you instead of ignoring the argument and going on with your life and onto new threads.
See, if just ignoring the personal attacks worked I would do that, but I'm not just some average poster that could easily blend in and not attract much attention. When a person stands out in the way that I do you can't just ignore the flames because that actually causes even more flamers to come out of the woodwork. Ignoring it actually makes for more disruption than responding does.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wyldfire said:
I'm not just some average poster that could easily blend in and not attract much attention.
That's cuz we love you. :flowers:
 

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Ever onward said:
That's cuz we love you. :flowers:
Not quite...

People either hate to love me or love to hate me, lol.
 

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actually, wyldefire, it does work. I am not as inflammatory as you, but I have stopped flaming by using people's flames to prove a point.
 

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You're sassy girl, I like it.
Oh God, don't flirt with me...there will be like 20 posts calling me an attention wh*re if you do that. I'm not kidding...and you will be called an AFC, too. Just don't go there...save us both the aggravation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LOL, it was just harmless internet flirting is all.

I will refrain from doing so again ma'am

For the record I have no intentions of running off with Wyldefire and getting married.
 

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Ever onward said:
LOL, it was just harmless internet flirting is all.

I will refrain from doing so again ma'am

For the record I have no intentions of running off with Wyldefire and getting married.

that is right. I think the last poster she was with was crotchsniffer. :p

you remember him wyldefire?
 

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that is right. I think the last poster she was with was crotchsniffer. :p

you remember him wyldefire?
Crotchsniffer is a hoot...very funny guy. I remember when Pen and Gio announced they were getting married Crotchsniffer started a thread saying he and I were getting married. I was laughing my ass off most of that thread.

Just for you wavejams...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=72980
 

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whatever happened to that guy?
its like someone disappeared him.
 

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Don't let them run you away; you have so much to offer us all.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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penkitten said:
whatever happened to that guy?
its like someone disappeared him.
I don't know...I haven't seen him around for quite awhile. He always cracked me up, though.
 

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thanks for the link wylde, I just had a good laugh. Has sexy malibu been back since?
 

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thanks for the link wylde, I just had a good laugh. Has sexy malibu been back since?
No clue...I never really talked much to her. All she ever did was try to get guys to hit on her from what I saw. To be honest with you, the only time I ever even saw her posting was when I was posting on a thread that was blowing up with responses and she would jump in trying to grab some attention. I usually don't post on the type of threads most women who come here post on. The only women I actually got to know at all were penkitten, VeryBadGirl and RebelLeader (I think that was her name). They all posted pretty much in the same fashion that I did and were interested in discussing things seriously more than getting hit on.
 

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Are you still squawking? your almost as bad as the old bird your running to defend (for reasons only known to you).

Anyway seeing as your talking to me about me and off the wyldfire train I guess I can jump back into this rubbish for a bit.



Ahh so its e-qualification time is it, If I slap a photo up of me and some chicks that will get your seal of approval will it? I can speak AFC nonsense about how I want to punch out others guys for sleazing onto my chick and how the seduction gurus are all speaking out of their ass but its ok because I put a picture up?

Are you for real?

Pfff ok mary if you ask REALLY nicely I'll send you some pictures and yeah I'm serious, I'll even throw a few of my ball bag in for you. NO JOKE, but it has to be cherry on top and all that style.

P.S I had no idea Jariel put up pictures, I was only commenting on the crap he writes, but if he put pics up then that changes everything :rolleyes: I'm starting to think your Jariel.

titman, your posts really crack me up. And you've a made a fair point too -- it's shocking how many people will worship somebody with a tacky photo, depicting them with their arm around some wh0re who could easily be their sister. :crackup:

However, Jariel isn't completely off base.....he just takes his ideas way to far. Sure, pure ss isn't great for an LTR but that doesn't mean it isn't effective for picking up women. Just depends what you want in life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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