"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I am probably going to be leaving sosuave.net for good very soon...

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See, that's another thing...I actually DO try to give constructive advice...and I put a lot of thought into the advice I give, too. Anytime I first post on a thread that's what I'm doing...giving advice
I know you give quality advice Wylde and I appreciate it. I did say that my comments were not directed at you. I was just on a rant about the low quality of advice that is actually given on this site and I posted it on your thread because a few posters were discussing the purpose of this site.

It's like you said

Too many guys on here are always responding with "NEXT!" or "Go read the Bible you stupid newbie!" Those posts don't teach anyone anything or help anyone. It just breeds more of the same low quality crap posts this place already has too many of.
Anyway, the only advice I have to give to you is the same advice I gave to you earlier. Just be yourself and respond in any way you choose and if they ban you for that, so be it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wyldefire, you are a veteran member and your advice is worth it. However, we can't keep you here, and it is your choice when to leave.

You could just ignore attacks on you.
 

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I intend to post how I always post. I pretty much made that clear in my first post that I won't just sit back and take crap. I just wanted to let everyone know that I was told I would be banned if I didn't accept a different set of rules and let Allen and the mods know that they would be banning a valued member for a really lousy reason. That's really about it. Things have kinda strayed back and forth to other topics and what not...but that's cool too...I'm not anal about keeping things rigidly on one topic. Some of the best discussions grow from something else.
 

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Then you will be banned. Sorry. Bottom line. I respect your atempt to stand on principle, and I can't remember ever attacking'insulting you, but it really is your choice if you want to be immature and just argue with those that insult you instead of ignoring the argument and going on with your life and onto new threads.
 

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wavejams007 said:
Then you will be banned. Sorry. Bottom line. I respect your atempt to stand on principle, and I can't remember ever attacking'insulting you, but it really is your choice if you want to be immature and just argue with those that insult you instead of ignoring the argument and going on with your life and onto new threads.
See, if just ignoring the personal attacks worked I would do that, but I'm not just some average poster that could easily blend in and not attract much attention. When a person stands out in the way that I do you can't just ignore the flames because that actually causes even more flamers to come out of the woodwork. Ignoring it actually makes for more disruption than responding does.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wyldfire said:
I'm not just some average poster that could easily blend in and not attract much attention.
That's cuz we love you. :flowers:
 

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Ever onward said:
That's cuz we love you. :flowers:
Not quite...

People either hate to love me or love to hate me, lol.
 

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actually, wyldefire, it does work. I am not as inflammatory as you, but I have stopped flaming by using people's flames to prove a point.
 

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You're sassy girl, I like it.
Oh God, don't flirt with me...there will be like 20 posts calling me an attention wh*re if you do that. I'm not kidding...and you will be called an AFC, too. Just don't go there...save us both the aggravation.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LOL, it was just harmless internet flirting is all.

I will refrain from doing so again ma'am

For the record I have no intentions of running off with Wyldefire and getting married.
 

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Ever onward said:
LOL, it was just harmless internet flirting is all.

I will refrain from doing so again ma'am

For the record I have no intentions of running off with Wyldefire and getting married.

that is right. I think the last poster she was with was crotchsniffer. :p

you remember him wyldefire?
 

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that is right. I think the last poster she was with was crotchsniffer. :p

you remember him wyldefire?
Crotchsniffer is a hoot...very funny guy. I remember when Pen and Gio announced they were getting married Crotchsniffer started a thread saying he and I were getting married. I was laughing my ass off most of that thread.

Just for you wavejams...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=72980
 

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whatever happened to that guy?
its like someone disappeared him.
 

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Don't let them run you away; you have so much to offer us all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten said:
whatever happened to that guy?
its like someone disappeared him.
I don't know...I haven't seen him around for quite awhile. He always cracked me up, though.
 

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thanks for the link wylde, I just had a good laugh. Has sexy malibu been back since?
 

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thanks for the link wylde, I just had a good laugh. Has sexy malibu been back since?
No clue...I never really talked much to her. All she ever did was try to get guys to hit on her from what I saw. To be honest with you, the only time I ever even saw her posting was when I was posting on a thread that was blowing up with responses and she would jump in trying to grab some attention. I usually don't post on the type of threads most women who come here post on. The only women I actually got to know at all were penkitten, VeryBadGirl and RebelLeader (I think that was her name). They all posted pretty much in the same fashion that I did and were interested in discussing things seriously more than getting hit on.
 

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( . )( . ) said:
Are you still squawking? your almost as bad as the old bird your running to defend (for reasons only known to you).

Anyway seeing as your talking to me about me and off the wyldfire train I guess I can jump back into this rubbish for a bit.



Ahh so its e-qualification time is it, If I slap a photo up of me and some chicks that will get your seal of approval will it? I can speak AFC nonsense about how I want to punch out others guys for sleazing onto my chick and how the seduction gurus are all speaking out of their ass but its ok because I put a picture up?

Are you for real?

Pfff ok mary if you ask REALLY nicely I'll send you some pictures and yeah I'm serious, I'll even throw a few of my ball bag in for you. NO JOKE, but it has to be cherry on top and all that style.

P.S I had no idea Jariel put up pictures, I was only commenting on the crap he writes, but if he put pics up then that changes everything :rolleyes: I'm starting to think your Jariel.

titman, your posts really crack me up. And you've a made a fair point too -- it's shocking how many people will worship somebody with a tacky photo, depicting them with their arm around some wh0re who could easily be their sister. :crackup:

However, Jariel isn't completely off base.....he just takes his ideas way to far. Sure, pure ss isn't great for an LTR but that doesn't mean it isn't effective for picking up women. Just depends what you want in life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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