Wyldfire said:
Posting the PM would be a violation of the TOS and then I actually WOULD deserve to be banned. There were several PMs from the same person that stated clearly that if I respond to the insults and attacks I will be banned. The problem is...if I DON'T respond to them there will at least 3 times as many because those same frustrated guys will view me as a weak and easy target to lash out at. Just look at this thread as an example. There are only a couple of the rude comments from posters who always make those comments. There are a whole bunch more that would not have posted at all if they thought I would give it right back to them.
I've been here a long time and this has been an ongoing issue for 5 years. When I post as most are used to me posting there is ALWAYS less of the flamebaiters.
There are other mature posters on this board Wyldfire, and I dare say that they are esteemed by others as deserving the mature status... as opposed to other 25+ people that you and I both know
If you just construct one
GOOD debatable argument, versus 10 arguments, of lesser value, than people will have far less to insult and attack you about...
You simply give verbal fodder to the masses when you go on the offensive. Offensive, as in, the best verbal defense, is a good verbal offense. When you keep responding to the negative posts, and attacks, they just realize that the attacks are working, and they bug you more...
One thing I noticed as well, you tend to concentrate on the people that are causing you problems, in the process you avoid the people that agree and
COULD actually learn from you.
If you stop fighting with people that offend you, they WILL realise it is futile. If they are attacking you on your gender alone, ignorance WILL be your virtue.
I know how well you can get your point across, and I'm damned sure you are proud of it. I could go back and scour about 500 quotes where you expressly defend your verbal prowess. In defense of the oppostion, your point is not always clear, and generally the short winded responses you write, tend to be of such experential value, as opposed to logical value, that people ONLY have the option of attacking your experiences.
Don't sit back, and claim write only comments on what people write... take action, and be proactive, create po, positive responses, possible actions, potential experiments, and probable occurences.
Do you notice how you write about past experiences in this thread? Notice how all the negative responses AND positive, are based upon past experiences?
It's always going to be that way... and the way people view you, is not going to EVER be on a case by case basis, unless it is the first time somebody reads one of your posts. Afterwards, they try to make sense of who you are, they create associations with YOUR experiences and HOW OTHERS react to your experiences...
If you've ever studied NLP, or self-organizing systems, you should know what I am talking about.
