"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am hating the way I look

insidious

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Seriously.

I'm scraping 40 now and I look in the mirror daily and I find myself micro-analyzing my face and I don't think I like what I see any more.

My looks were never going to melt girl's hearts, but I used to work past that and still get laid regularly cause I just didn't give a s**t.

But I think aging has made me more AFC!

Oh my, this is not good.

Thing is dudes, I'm still banging a chick, she's 28 (OK, she's married), but the point is, in spite of that, my self-esteem is starting to plummet with my age.

Any oldsters (or wise youngsters) out there who can set my mind at ease??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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white sox bill

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Originally posted by insidious
Seriously.

I'm scraping 40 now and I look in the mirror daily and I find myself micro-analyzing my face and I don't think I like what I see any more.

My looks were never going to melt girl's hearts, but I used to work past that and still get laid regularly cause I just didn't give a s**t.

But I think aging has made me more AFC!

Oh my, this is not good.

Thing is dudes, I'm still banging a chick, she's 28 (OK, she's married), but the point is, in spite of that, my self-esteem is starting to plummet with my age.

Any oldsters (or wise youngsters) out there who can set my mind at ease??
Bro I hear ya--I started critiquing my face at about 40 too. Stay out of sun, use sunless lotion for color. Use a high quality facial cleaner in AM. I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it) Hows your genetics? Mom and Dad stil look good?

I mean you can always save for a facelift if your that vain. The big thing now is HGH--human growth hormone, which is fountain of youth in an injectable form. Dr's script required. IM me if your interested

Other than that, we can try to slow down age, but it will always win in the end. Its a state of mind, Good luck!
 

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Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Thanks for the pointers dude, that's all good advice, sometimes you just wanna hear someone else with the same problem :) It's not like I sit there 24/7 thinking about thit crap, but lately I think about it MORE, you know?

My genetics are weird...my dad has aged well but you can tell he's an old fart. My mom has NEVER aged well. She looked like a gramma at 30. The thing is, there are some women who think I'm 30...

I think it might be the beginnings of MID LIFE CRISIS! :rolleyes:
 

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Re: Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by insidious
...The thing is, there are some women who think I'm 30...
You're pushing 40 and some women think you're 30? Forgive me for overlooking the obvious, but how is this a bad thing?

I'm 37 and I'm beginning to worry about my hairline. In the last several years it's been slowly creeping backwards :(. My plan is to wear a military cut (which is what I have now) or a shaved head (something I haven't done since college--long before it was the trendy thing to do).

As for my face, well, I've never been too happy with my countenance, but I've never worried about it too much. I can pass for 30, I think, but like you, I tend not to melt girls' hearts.
 

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How are you in your overall health? Do you lift (I'm not talking about lifting six pack of Bud every night :D )? What you put in your body has a big factor on the physical aspect.

Sun worshipping can make a 20-year old face look like a buffalo's butt. That should be no surprise to a lot of people.

One last part of the equation is your attitude towards life. I know easier said than done. Good looks mean nothing if you have a lousy perspective on life.


:cheer:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by white sox bill
I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it)
Wow I never heard that one before.

Are you saying that Prep H will get rid of dark circles or wrinkles?

May be something to remember for the future. :)
 

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Are you sure about that???

"I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it)..."

---Whoa! Do you have a cite for the article or website or source of information suggesting this?! Preparation H is supposed to treat hemorrhoids (sp?)!
 

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I was carded at the all star game tuesday. Was with a 40 yr old and I gave her shyt about her looking way older than me.

I fourtunately have a lot of hair on my head, just have to keep it colored. Good reason to have a fvck buddy who does hair:D
 

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Originally posted by Aztec

Sun worshipping can make a 20-year old face look like a buffalo's butt. That should be no surprise to a lot of people.
I dont know about buffalo's butts... but I would like to look older.
I look younger by 5-7 years and this creates problems sometimes.
Do you think I have just get more sun?
 

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Re: Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by Slickster
Wow I never heard that one before.

Are you saying that Prep H will get rid of dark circles or wrinkles?

May be something to remember for the future. :)
Of course we all know it releives hemmoroids, but it also reduces the swelling of the tissue around the hemmoroid. Same principle around the eyes--or baggy eyes. Reduces swelling. Just be carefull, don't get in IN the eye!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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