"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I am hating the way I look

insidious

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Seriously.

I'm scraping 40 now and I look in the mirror daily and I find myself micro-analyzing my face and I don't think I like what I see any more.

My looks were never going to melt girl's hearts, but I used to work past that and still get laid regularly cause I just didn't give a s**t.

But I think aging has made me more AFC!

Oh my, this is not good.

Thing is dudes, I'm still banging a chick, she's 28 (OK, she's married), but the point is, in spite of that, my self-esteem is starting to plummet with my age.

Any oldsters (or wise youngsters) out there who can set my mind at ease??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by insidious
Seriously.

I'm scraping 40 now and I look in the mirror daily and I find myself micro-analyzing my face and I don't think I like what I see any more.

My looks were never going to melt girl's hearts, but I used to work past that and still get laid regularly cause I just didn't give a s**t.

But I think aging has made me more AFC!

Oh my, this is not good.

Thing is dudes, I'm still banging a chick, she's 28 (OK, she's married), but the point is, in spite of that, my self-esteem is starting to plummet with my age.

Any oldsters (or wise youngsters) out there who can set my mind at ease??
Bro I hear ya--I started critiquing my face at about 40 too. Stay out of sun, use sunless lotion for color. Use a high quality facial cleaner in AM. I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it) Hows your genetics? Mom and Dad stil look good?

I mean you can always save for a facelift if your that vain. The big thing now is HGH--human growth hormone, which is fountain of youth in an injectable form. Dr's script required. IM me if your interested

Other than that, we can try to slow down age, but it will always win in the end. Its a state of mind, Good luck!
 

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Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Thanks for the pointers dude, that's all good advice, sometimes you just wanna hear someone else with the same problem :) It's not like I sit there 24/7 thinking about thit crap, but lately I think about it MORE, you know?

My genetics are weird...my dad has aged well but you can tell he's an old fart. My mom has NEVER aged well. She looked like a gramma at 30. The thing is, there are some women who think I'm 30...

I think it might be the beginnings of MID LIFE CRISIS! :rolleyes:
 

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Re: Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by insidious
...The thing is, there are some women who think I'm 30...
You're pushing 40 and some women think you're 30? Forgive me for overlooking the obvious, but how is this a bad thing?

I'm 37 and I'm beginning to worry about my hairline. In the last several years it's been slowly creeping backwards :(. My plan is to wear a military cut (which is what I have now) or a shaved head (something I haven't done since college--long before it was the trendy thing to do).

As for my face, well, I've never been too happy with my countenance, but I've never worried about it too much. I can pass for 30, I think, but like you, I tend not to melt girls' hearts.
 

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How are you in your overall health? Do you lift (I'm not talking about lifting six pack of Bud every night :D )? What you put in your body has a big factor on the physical aspect.

Sun worshipping can make a 20-year old face look like a buffalo's butt. That should be no surprise to a lot of people.

One last part of the equation is your attitude towards life. I know easier said than done. Good looks mean nothing if you have a lousy perspective on life.


:cheer:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by white sox bill
I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it)
Wow I never heard that one before.

Are you saying that Prep H will get rid of dark circles or wrinkles?

May be something to remember for the future. :)
 

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Are you sure about that???

"I use Preperation H for circles under eyes (models swear by it)..."

---Whoa! Do you have a cite for the article or website or source of information suggesting this?! Preparation H is supposed to treat hemorrhoids (sp?)!
 

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I was carded at the all star game tuesday. Was with a 40 yr old and I gave her shyt about her looking way older than me.

I fourtunately have a lot of hair on my head, just have to keep it colored. Good reason to have a fvck buddy who does hair:D
 

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Originally posted by Aztec

Sun worshipping can make a 20-year old face look like a buffalo's butt. That should be no surprise to a lot of people.
I dont know about buffalo's butts... but I would like to look older.
I look younger by 5-7 years and this creates problems sometimes.
Do you think I have just get more sun?
 

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Re: Re: Re: I am hating the way I look

Originally posted by Slickster
Wow I never heard that one before.

Are you saying that Prep H will get rid of dark circles or wrinkles?

May be something to remember for the future. :)
Of course we all know it releives hemmoroids, but it also reduces the swelling of the tissue around the hemmoroid. Same principle around the eyes--or baggy eyes. Reduces swelling. Just be carefull, don't get in IN the eye!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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