"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I am Going Pariah(Herpes and LTR)

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ATX1001 said:
Ruin someones life? As I said above, herpes is not HIV. If we're taking about HIV, then yeah sure I fully agree but herpes is just a few 'cold sores' on your c0ck & balls for about a week. Then they go away and you forget about it. Just don't fvck anyone while you have the sores and you're golden.
Ok, so either you have herpes and that's how you rationalize you not disclosing the info, or you don't mind if you got infected by someone who knew, yet didn't wan to tell you.

Even if you don't consider it "ruining someone's life", it is a very MAJOR inconvenience to have to go through, specially if you could have been warned, and prevent it, and you didn't choose to but got it from someone who chose to put you at risk, and didn't tell you they were infected for fear of them not scoring with you.

I would like to be warned when somebody near me or that I am about to kiss, has a cold, the flu, cold sores, etc., much more if they have an infectious, permanent STD. If I have the choice between getting it and not getting it, I would like to know, so I can choose NOT getting it. Simple. You decide what is best for YOU, let the other person decide what is best for THEM.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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horaholic said:
You are aware that most of the sexual population has the herpes virus but show no symptoms?
Basically what this guy said. Most sexually active people have been exposed to herpes at one point or another. Even non-sexually active people can be exposed to it. But they don't actually have herpes and don't get any outbreaks.

Tests can't tell you if you have herpes or not. They only tell you if you've been EXPOSED to the virus or not. Even medical people will tell you that herpes tests are basically a waste of time. If you have sex and then get a sore the next day, then you probably want to get tested to make sure you know what it is. Other then that, herpes tests are worthless.

If you actually have herpes you'll know from outbreaks. If you have this problem then you can treat the problem. Other then that there's nothing to worry about.
 

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We have had this discussion many times before about herpes:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1339413

Spreading the virus without having sores is called "asymptomatic viral shedding." Scientists say that it is possible to spread herpes this way, but people who got it that way are nearly impossible to find. Most people spread herpes because they don't know they have it.

I have mentioned on here before that I was married for seven years to a woman who has genital herpes, never used a condom, and still never got it, or at least have never given it to anybody. I have never taken the blood test. My ex-wife has told me she still struggles with telling new guys. People tend to flip out and treat you like a leper. We had a threesome once with one of her friends, but just barely, because the girl had such a difficult time getting past the herpes disclosure. After that experience, I stopped mentioning it to girls.

The irony with disclosing everything before sex is that despite doing so being logical on all levels, it is still an instant destroyer of attraction. I once got a quasi-STD called 'molluscum contagiosum' from a ltr girlfriend, who then gave me the leper treatment when I told her about it. How logical is that? She was afraid of getting the same virus she gave to me. But sexual attraction is entirely emotional. It's not logical at all, and being logical beforehand will often destroy every good emotion a girl has for you.
 

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Rocksoff, you're only thinking of yourself mate. Go read Corvette06's post about his girlfriend giving him an STD because she was sleeping around behind his back.

After that imagine bagging some chick who goes home and spreads it to her boyfriend unknowingly. Yeah she is cvnt for sleeping around on him, but why ruin someones life.

Before you get too down on yourself go get tested. You might not even have it at all and you've been scaring yourself this whole time.
This. Don't be selfish. Get tested. It shouldn't be too hard to not have sex for a week or two while you get the cash.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Taboo this subject is...lol most folks will talk the moral talk but do the opposite.. most sexually active folks have something.. most never find out and most that find out never tell.. thats just the reality of it all..
 

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im in the same boat as you, except i got a different STD from my LTR. I broke up with her, she blamed it on me but i never cheated on her so it HAS To be from her. im not worrying about girls right now. just my health and work. i joined a gym. message me if you wanna talk about it. i didnt tell my friends ethier
 

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rocksoff said:
all i see this as now is no more LTR with girls ever, and thats actually not so bad
so your solution is... you're turning gay?
 

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PappyS said:
Basically what this guy said. Most sexually active people have been exposed to herpes at one point or another. Even non-sexually active people can be exposed to it. But they don't actually have herpes and don't get any outbreaks.

Tests can't tell you if you have herpes or not. They only tell you if you've been EXPOSED to the virus or not. Even medical people will tell you that herpes tests are basically a waste of time. If you have sex and then get a sore the next day, then you probably want to get tested to make sure you know what it is. Other then that, herpes tests are worthless.

If you actually have herpes you'll know from outbreaks. If you have this problem then you can treat the problem. Other then that there's nothing to worry about.

Right, there are only tests that show how much you've been exposed to herpes. I heard there's a scale that shows this. For example if your blood results are greater than say, 0.23 ( the higher the number the more exposed you've been) then you have herpes. I would imagine it's nearly impossible to score a 0.00 since everybody's basically been exposed to it.

So if you are 0.22 then you don't have herpes?? But if you're 0.23 then you have it?? Sounds like a load of crap to me.
 

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I got a pamphlet from the testing center, it says with no symptoms and using a condom a Male has a 4% of infecting.........thats low enough for me to not have to stop ****ing chicks...Just swooped 2 boxes of rubbers im set
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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