"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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All good suggestions above and in addition, I'd see if there is a Toastmaster's in your area which will help you publically speak. Joining comedy improv classes will do wonders too helping you relax around others. Also joining voluntary groups will both help you meet people and interact with them. For example, cleaning up neighborhoods, freshening up schools, etc.

Edit: Also I'm not sure how fresh out of college you are but you can also use your booksmarts to offer tutoring sessions. This way you get paid and get to meet/interact with new people that you're interested in.
I am a few years out of college.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Pro tip:
When you get proficient - learn to play several songs with girl's names in the title.
Not necessarily the whole song... just the main hook, or enough to be recognisable.

It's got me laid a few times - most recently a couple of yrs back - the girl was called 'Jane'.
Played the intro, then main riff to Jefferson Starship's 'Jane' - kinda half croaked/half hummed a coupla lines (I can't sing LOL)
All I got out was... "Jane, you're playin' a game - you never can win girl....", then she came over, slapped the lips on me, and we were upstairs within 15 mins. :up:
LOL. Cool! I will learn a few songs with women's names in them.
 

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Lots of easy to apply and useful advice on this thread the guys have done you proud. As your a bit new around here i thought i mine jordan on who to listen to and y since get a lot of conflicting opinions. There s a lot of gold nuggets to be found here in the dmz between the t just be a natural camp and the pua camp. Have a look at senior posters early and recent posts. If they seem wiser and more chilled they ve probably got this chick thing sorted. Whatever that means for them.
 
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