"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

I Am BROKEN..Please HELP ME

Joined
Aug 1, 2009
Messages
306
Reaction score
11
Warrior I'm sorry, I couldn't make another post yesterday because of the limit. I have been working all day.

Here's the thing Warrior and others here, my situation is a little different. The issue is that I've tried and I do all of what's been suggested and I think after thinking this over last night, I think I know what the issue is.

It's very hard to explain and quite honestly, it sounds really stupid. Very stupid, but I know this is my problem.

Did you want me to PM you about it or what? If you are free I can talk by phone if you want also.

Sorry if this is coming off as a troll, I know "last week" I was acting a fool about this site but it's just because hey I wanted to have more convos on things I was going through. I didn't intend for it to come off as a troll or something.

And btw, I'm not really familiar with this online discussion forum stuff, what is a troll? Is it someone that interrupts the "conversational flow" around here or it is someone that just posts crap all day?

If I'm coming off as either one its not intentional.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

sodbuster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 11, 2008
Messages
2,560
Reaction score
373
Age
67
Location
South Dakota
A troll is someone who runs around the site trying to start sh1t,makes up stories etc. just look at your past posts-running your mouth about how all women are sugar and spice,we are wrong ,bitter,etc. Perfect definition for your past,now you come in here heartbroken[another story?]
 

Drewskie

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 4, 2008
Messages
401
Reaction score
9
Read some of his other posts, he's a pretty smart dude. I think he's doing a good job of trolling here just to mess with everyone.
 

wunnaBsmooth

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 14, 2005
Messages
144
Reaction score
2
Location
Ohio
window said:
online dating = arrange for a 45 min coffee meet and greet within 4 emails tops. If they refuse get the fck outer there.

This advice ROCKS!

not for the OP.. But it Rocks! 1 more rule to remember... If I ever decide to online date.... (I personally think it's a waste of time because I'm always dissapointed in what shows up...lol)
 

Buddha_Mind

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
981
Reaction score
43
Location
not here. in the real world.
Dude, you have to chill out. You have to stop and breath. Go some place and meditate for awhile on the temporary nature of all things and how some day your beating heart will cease in its chest. Why the **** are you worrying about this woman?

Any person who unleashes on someone like that is a terrible human being. There are many ways she could have talked to you and ended in friendship (even if she did think you are ugly).

Who cares if someone thinks your ugly? Some girls might find you to be a stud. Others aren't impressed. It's all relative. Who gives a **** if this woman thinks you aren't attractive?

What you need to focus on right now is:

Self-Love

Stop hating on yourself and your life. You only get one chance here. Then this whole thing is over. Ask yourself, what do you want out of your life and who do you want to be? Work towards these things. Women who are genuinely attracted to you (in looks and as who you are) will come.

Stop talking to this ***** right away, and love yourself man. Your the only one you'll ever have -- your the only body and brain that you'll ever get to experience.

Keep learning. Keep working.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Veridin

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2009
Messages
235
Reaction score
17
The Message Boy said:
And btw, I'm not really familiar with this online discussion forum stuff, what is a troll? Is it someone that interrupts the "conversational flow" around here or it is someone that just posts crap all day?

If I'm coming off as either one its not intentional.
Everyone who has spent more than an hour in an online forum is familiar with the word "troll" and doesn't need to ask. When you are 26 and have more than 250 posts in a forum, and probably hundreds of more posts elsewhere over the years, you know how "troll" is used.



Comes from "trawling" by the way. As in trawling a thread to catch reactions, like a fishnet through the sea.
 

squirrels

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2003
Messages
6,620
Reaction score
186
Age
47
Location
A universe...where heartbreak and sadness have bee
What the hell??

What ONE GIRL off the INTERNETS says is enough to shatter your entire self-image??

This is the "Mature Man" forum. If you want to act like a 14-year-old, I suggest the High School forum.

By the way...DO you look like the pic you had online? Or DID you scam this girl??
 
Top