"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I am a god-awful dancer

YellowPeril

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Hey everybody. Me again. Topic du jour: GRINDING.

So awful might be a bit of an exaggeration. I can bob around and juke like anyone else when I'm with a group of friends. That said, I have no real style. I see guys grinding like they were born doing it, and I hardly know where to put my hands, lol. DJs: Please help me to not make a fool of myself on the dance floor. I'm tired of getting laughed at for my awkwardness!

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Prodigy746

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ROFL...you dont know how to grind.. thats the easiest dance ever if you can call it a dance. What do you mean u dont know where to put your hands... Hmm hips, shoulders, weist is a good idea...
 

It's-Me

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YellowPeril said:
Hey everybody. Me again. Topic du jour: GRINDING.

So awful might be a bit of an exaggeration. I can bob around and juke like anyone else when I'm with a group of friends. That said, I have no real style. I see guys grinding like they were born doing it, and I hardly know where to put my hands, lol. DJs: Please help me to not make a fool of myself on the dance floor. I'm tired of getting laughed at for my awkwardness!

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Your looking at it the wrong way. Your weakness can be used as an advantage. You can ask one of your lady friends to show you how to do it properly or even ask girls :).
 

Leporello

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I hate dancing and I'm not good at it. So, i don't dance. I put my energy into other things.
 

Warrior74

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Grinding...just keep the beat and grind...simple as pie man. Hit up some youtube videos and just don't go over board. as long as you can move from left to right and put your junk on her trunk your golden. Relax.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vanilla

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Use your hips and practice. It helps if you know the music so you can grind to the beat.
 

SBW

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Get out there and learn some basic steps, moves, walks and apply them wherever possible, whilst showing some degree of enjoyment then.

This place is full of blokes who can't dance, won't dance or at best may stand round the edge of the dancefloor ogling women.

Since I did something about it and managed to become halfway proficent (I wouldn't say good by any means) I have found you get an awful lot more interest from women out there - In fact, once you have been up, got the beat (this is more important than technical perfection IME) and been seen once or twice on the dancefloor, in most circumstances you will never be short of a willing partner and this often leads to more intimate contact/invitations/phone numbers etc. :)

And grinding is the easiest of the lot IME. You barely need to think about it and the woman will usually be happy to help you along - just stay well-close and within her frame of movement. :D
 
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