"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am a god-awful dancer

YellowPeril

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Hey everybody. Me again. Topic du jour: GRINDING.

So awful might be a bit of an exaggeration. I can bob around and juke like anyone else when I'm with a group of friends. That said, I have no real style. I see guys grinding like they were born doing it, and I hardly know where to put my hands, lol. DJs: Please help me to not make a fool of myself on the dance floor. I'm tired of getting laughed at for my awkwardness!

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Prodigy746

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ROFL...you dont know how to grind.. thats the easiest dance ever if you can call it a dance. What do you mean u dont know where to put your hands... Hmm hips, shoulders, weist is a good idea...
 

It's-Me

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YellowPeril said:
Hey everybody. Me again. Topic du jour: GRINDING.

So awful might be a bit of an exaggeration. I can bob around and juke like anyone else when I'm with a group of friends. That said, I have no real style. I see guys grinding like they were born doing it, and I hardly know where to put my hands, lol. DJs: Please help me to not make a fool of myself on the dance floor. I'm tired of getting laughed at for my awkwardness!

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Your looking at it the wrong way. Your weakness can be used as an advantage. You can ask one of your lady friends to show you how to do it properly or even ask girls :).
 

Leporello

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I hate dancing and I'm not good at it. So, i don't dance. I put my energy into other things.
 

Warrior74

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Grinding...just keep the beat and grind...simple as pie man. Hit up some youtube videos and just don't go over board. as long as you can move from left to right and put your junk on her trunk your golden. Relax.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Vanilla

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Use your hips and practice. It helps if you know the music so you can grind to the beat.
 

SBW

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Get out there and learn some basic steps, moves, walks and apply them wherever possible, whilst showing some degree of enjoyment then.

This place is full of blokes who can't dance, won't dance or at best may stand round the edge of the dancefloor ogling women.

Since I did something about it and managed to become halfway proficent (I wouldn't say good by any means) I have found you get an awful lot more interest from women out there - In fact, once you have been up, got the beat (this is more important than technical perfection IME) and been seen once or twice on the dancefloor, in most circumstances you will never be short of a willing partner and this often leads to more intimate contact/invitations/phone numbers etc. :)

And grinding is the easiest of the lot IME. You barely need to think about it and the woman will usually be happy to help you along - just stay well-close and within her frame of movement. :D
 
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