"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you guys tend to have more success (as in better response from girl, as to just number of girls gotten) when you aren't even trying to get a girl, or do you perform better when you see a girl, desire her, and go after her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It just depends on how you handle the situation. If you're able to chat up females, then you will succeed. If they approach you and you're able to respond appropriately, you will succeed. It's all in your attitude and your actions.
 
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Thanks for the advice, though I'm not asking for help. I just want to know what goes down in your lives. Do girls attract to you when you are getting the mail, or do girls fawn when you work for it?
 
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Females certainly do not "flock" to me of their own accord; I'm a very average looking person. Once I finally work up the "guts" to cold approach, I'm sure I could, with a little practice, get females talking to me with my conversational skills. Right now, I'm not too sure.
 
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April_Infinite said:
Do you guys tend to have more success (as in better response from girl, as to just number of girls gotten) when you aren't even trying to get a girl, or do you perform better when you see a girl, desire her, and go after her?
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I do not really approach females but when I do things do not usually go well.I have to work really hard to get through to them.I get more results when I'm not expecting anything.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That's what I thought... It seems when you least expect it, all of a sudden things turn golden. And then when you concentrate, things go south. It's annoying, because if I go after people, I have way more opportunities, though they all drop dead quickly, since I'm trying. Then I don't do anything at all, and I'll "accidentally" meet, and do well with one person, but that just starts one-itis, which ultimately leads to failure also.
 
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