I always hated fill-in-the-blank questions...

[omerta1111]

I am having fun with this one, but it’s a real challenge. The pertinent facts are below. So you tell me, what's the next move?

Him: Give me your number
Her: Okay

[days later]

Him: Hi Her, it’s me, Him. Let’s go out.
Her: I’m seeing someone, but we could get the kids together.
Him: I’m seeing someone also. Let’s do it.

[meet w/kids, have a great time]
[days later]

Him: That was fun. Let’s go out just the two of us.
Her: Sounds great.

[date goes well, I suppose]
[days later]

Him: Would you like to do X with me this week?
Her: Thanks, but I'm going ona trip with a friend. I’ll call you when I get back.

[week later, email exchange]

Her: Hi Him. I’m back.

[days later]

Him: Hi Her. How was your trip? Want to go see Z with me on Saturday?
Her: Trip was great. I need to pass on the date, I’m seeing someone regularly now.
Him: No worries. I ended it with the girl I was seeing, but it wasn't bad. Anyway, what’s his name? What does he do for a living? I hope he turns out to be a real jerk. Just kidding! Not really….
Her: He’s a super nice guy. And a doctor. What have you and your son been doing?
Him:_________________________________.

 

[NewMan]

Him: Well we have been planning a trip together - we are going to see XYZ for a weekend - It should be really fun. But enough about that. Well, if things change with you and Dr. Jekyl, give me a call K. Bye


Something to that effect would be my response. But you can insert whatever you feel appropriate in the first sentence.

Point is - you give her the message your not going to be hanging around being her "Friend"......

You are out of there - moving on.

 

[Royal Elite]

This is where following your head (both of them) instead of your gut causes problem. She already told you this relationship wouldnt be that type of relationship but somewhere in your head(top and bottom) you are develping an alternate universe where she didnt mean what she said, and somehow you will still get her. You did everything right, now you need to keep being right and move on and next her.

 

[Paradox]

Him: Hi Her. How was your trip? Want to go see Z with me on Saturday?
Translation: Hey. I thought about you. I want you.

Her: Trip was great. I need to pass on the date, I’m seeing someone regularly now.
Translation: I had a great time with my man. I am a 1-man woman. I don't want to blow this relationship so LJBF.

Him: No worries. I ended it with the girl I was seeing, but it wasn't bad. Anyway, what’s his name? What does he do for a living? I hope he turns out to be a real jerk. Just kidding! Not really….
Translation:No problem. If anything happens I'll let you down easy. Gimme some ammo so I can take pot shots at your BF. I hope he really makes a big mistake and fuks up the relationship.

Her: He’s a super nice guy. And a doctor. What have you and your son been doing?
Translation: He can't really mess up. He's done so much for me already. Do you think I paid for the trip? He has a six digit salary. I'll show you how to let someone down easy. lets chat until you feel better. I'll listen then I'll stop writing you.

 

[omerta1111]

Paradox & RE, that is good stuff...I suppose I should have clarified that I know for a fact that she didn't go on the trip with the other guy. But anyway, I like her, but at this point I am flummoxed...I can Next with the best of them, but this one may be worth the trouble of at least exiting the right way, leave the door open a crack. Is not responding the right way? I don't know.

And geez, a doctor? That in some respects makes me think less of her...every doctor I've ever known has been freakin' wierd as he.ll. If you're on this board and you're a doctor, you know exactly what I mean!

 

[omerta1111]

FWIW I decided to euthanize the whole thing...it's just not worth any more thought. Wanting to go out like a gentleman, I wished her well with her fella and told her everything was great with me. I gave it my best shot and came up short...Like Royal says, win or lose go out like a champ, not a chump.

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