"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I always get friend zoned

we all eat food

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idk why, i use ****y and funny, i kino all the time, and their always like "Nick, you're my best friend" and im like mothafudga. Like idk man, girls when they first meet me put me into the friend zone
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PleasureKing

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simple. in the total period you were with her, 99% of the time you expressed your feelings in a way she views as a friend.

keyword friend. your "friend" is usually someone of the same sex. you wouldnt have sex with your friend would you? same thing with her. she views you as a friend, she views you LIKE A GIRL. she doesnt think of you sexually, or maybe does, but not enough.

I really dont want to type everything on how to make her think of you sexually, because really, all i would be doing is summarizing the entire DJ Bible. so tell you what, read the DJ Bible, and most of your questions, if not all, will be answered. link (http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/)

if you need some direct assistance, send a PM for my AIM.
 

happymeal88

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Do you get her number when your first meet? Do you isolate her and go on individual dates? Is your kino sexual or playful? Likewise, is your CF immature stuff or sexual?

You need to convey to the girl when you first meet her that you are interested in her sexually, and not just as a friend.
 

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Make her think.
the key is to get her to imagine you and her married, kissing, haveing sex and etc'. That will make you a potintial BF.
 

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Lompa said:
Make her think.
the key is to get her to imagine you and her married, kissing, haveing sex and etc'. That will make you a potintial BF.
how do u do that?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LA_Chico

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read tha DJ bible little boy, aight bro
 

d9930380

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we all eat food - You are sooo lucky you have come to this site because I can correct the mistake with you that I made.

It's really simple.... Wait for it......

Date younger girls! Go for a 15 or 16 year old. Maturity is a sign of masculinity and the reasons why these girls (ones your age) don't see you sexually is you are probably less mature than most other boys their age or older. You will come to realise that girls don't want boys, they want men so they tend to date older guys. They want to feel submissve. The best thing is, doing this you can really pull above your level (the future cheerleaders), you have a lot to offer: access to older parties, prom, car etc.
 

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And if you are stuck on someone your age try this:
If the subject goes to cooking you can say: "I hope you cook well, i need my wife to make me a delicious meal" or something.
That will make her imagine you as a husband.
 

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lol maybe its the first line you use, or you are too comfortable around them, just make sure your intentions are know, flirt, kino around the areas that friends wouldnt go for etc.
Let your male dominance shown, dont act like a wussy.
Remeber respect them, but let it know that they respect u, as a DJ,not a friend.
And dont do things that u do with friends around them, for e.g farting, burping, discussing whos good looking etc.
 

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if you are truly good friends, you can find out how she operates while you are stuck in the friend zone. This can help you out of the friend zone with her and girls in the future. Im sure you can sacrifice attraction with 1-2 girls if it helps you in the long run with the hundreds of girls you will get with in life ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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killbill

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thats what girls tell me aslo. I guess that means we can get almost any chick right? theres this girl that i work with but i wouldnt **** with cause she is head overheels about her dumb **** b/f...but believe me when girls say that im pretty sure it means where cool and stuff..so take it as a compliment and move on to another chick..or try getting her.
 
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