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And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

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Well,when I did have a car,I paid for the gas and bills. The car was bought for me. So yeah,maybe I am not that independent. I am right now,confused. About myself,life,and where I am headed,and my place in the world and all that. I am,and also have been,confused about women. I have conflicting feelings about that issue,as evidenced by stuff I have said on here,some of it influenced by what I have read on here. all I know is,I have felt extremely lonely for so long. I mean,I'm not exactly the super alpha jock type,nor the sensitive nice guy,although there were times before where I leaned more toward that. I am not looking for multiple partners necessarily,although,I find the idea appealing,although not totally realistis. No,I believe in the whole life long partner,marriage,etc. But even that seems to fly in the face of what is subscribed on here as being afc. Maybe I am misreading some of what is discussed on here.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
Well,when I did have a car,I paid for the gas and bills. The car was bought for me. So yeah,maybe I am not that independent. I am right now,confused. About myself,life,and where I am headed,and my place in the world and all that. I am,and also have been,confused about women. I have conflicting feelings about that issue,as evidenced by stuff I have said on here,some of it influenced by what I have read on here. all I know is,I have felt extremely lonely for so long.
Crusader,I'm not trying to be rude to you. When you ask a question and I don't answer you directly,it's simply because I don't know what to say to you. It's that simple. My answer to your questions about how to move forward in life,how to get over feeling like you've wasted so much time while everyone else around you seems to be happy in their relationships,and all the other questions you have previously asked is this: I DON'T KNOW. I don't know what to say to help you out. I don't. To anybody else who would approach me with the same questions you have regarding the same issues,yeah,I'd have a TON of helpful advice,a lot of it already found in all of your threads. But for you in particular,I have no clue what to say.

I recognize the effect you have on some of the other members here,but me, I flat out REFUSE to be turned negative. I might get blasted from some of the other members for saying this,but to tell you the truth,I DO NOT want you to be banned from here. All I want is for you to do well in life. That's all....BUT,if you continue to be a blackhole and a negative effect on the forum,then yes,in my opinion,you should be banned. I'd rather see one person cut from the forum and see the overall spirit of Sosuave elevated than to have one person turn the rest of the members as bitter,confused,and negative as he is.

Now to make sure we understand each other,let me repeat: I CANNOT help you. I DO NOT KNOW any way of helping you out. All I can do is repeat what I've already said,which to this point hasn't worked,so no need to waste a post repeating info that hasn't been acted on or benefitted you yet.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
Maybe I am misreading some of what is discussed on here.
HORRAY!! My opinion is you are misreading the advice. Go and read it all again and again and again and again until it sticks and this is the way you think.
 
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I know you are only trying to help. This has just been a problem I can't get over. Instead of being single and happy,I am lonely and miserable. Maybe it's mixed messages,maybe it's society as a whole,maybe it's just been my own inability to get better. Or,I just have a hard time accepting certain things.

I mean,maybe I see all these problems as red flags that would turn other people away,or other stuff about me. My problems revolve mostly around people. This is a self reliance thing.

This is a rut I have been stuck in for some time,and it makes things seem more complicated than they probably are. It's also a mental thing. Due to depression or whatever,or it could masturbating too much/looking at porn too much,I am concerned that the mental/chemical/emotional drive to go out and try to get some is lowered. It's also a nervousness thing,I can't face rejection,I know,that's not a good thing,I mean,I could have gone out over and over and gotten immune to it by now,but yet,I am stuck.

I mean,I am able to look at porn,but am not used to being with real women,this concerns me. I am not used to that whole process,which is what I usually mean when I say I feel life has passed me by.
 

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Ask yourself this question has this site helped you? why stick around if something is not helping you?
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
Well,when I did have a car,I paid for the gas and bills. The car was bought for me.

If that does equal laziness and being taken care of by your parents, I don't know what does.


So yeah,maybe I am not that independent.
Move out of your house and pay your parents back for everything they paid for in raising you. Get a job and a car.
 
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Has this site helped me? Yes. I think it has. It has made me see some things very differently and made me think twice about alot in my own life. Has it necessarily changed me to where I would like to be ? No.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Move out of your house and pay your parents back for everything they paid for in raising you. Get a job and a car.
Agreed. Once this dude stands up and becomes a man,he'll feel a WHOLE lot better about himself,a lot better than any of the things we've suggested he do. And as for this site helping him,it hasn't and it can't. If it had,he'd post a report of some type of progress. Dude has over 50 threads,and I can't recall one where he's said anything good,positive,or uplifting. It'd be nice to see one thing,just one positive thread posted by him. Just one. Even on a cloudy day,the sun sometimes will find a seam,a crack somewhere in the clouds to shine through.
 

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okay since I knew you would say yes lol. What's the point of staying here if it didn't bring you anywhere where you want to be. This site isn't going to magically land you where you want to be, so stop wasting your time here. I'am not trying to bash you, but seriously you should ask yourself how has this site helped you in your life. To all the guys that said paying bills feels good, why don't you go ahead and pay mine.
 

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I know you are only trying to help. This has just been a problem I can't get over.
And you won't get over it until you get treatment. Everyone here is reluctant to help until you get treatment for your ailment.

Go to a therapist, get some meds for your depression and then come back once. Until you begin treatment, the door is closed for you here. I agree with Igetit! you're dragging this place down and you should be banned because of your behaviour. Why you aren't banned is a good question that I would like a mod to answer.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
CapedCrusader08 said:
I know you are only trying to help. This has just been a problem I can't get over.
And you won't get over it until you get treatment. Everyone here is reluctant to help until you get treatment for your ailment.

Go to a therapist, get some meds for your depression and then come back once. Until you begin treatment, the door is closed for you here. I agree with Igetit! you're dragging this place down and you should be banned because of your behaviour. Why you aren't banned is a good question that I would like a mod to answer.
I've read a couple of your replies to Crusader,and I know you were only trying to help him. That's why I didn't say anything whenever you posted in his thread. I knew that you were just wasting your posts,but everyone just has to learn for themselves. I figured you'd just burn yourself out trying to help the dude like like the rest of us have. I can't even read his replies anymore because I put him on the ignore list. I just don't have the energy/patience to keep going around in circles with him anymore. I still want the best for the Crusader,but I'm not going to waste my posts and frustrate myself for him. I simply won't do it....I refuse.

But props anyway man. Your heart's in the right place.
 

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I can't even read his replies anymore because I put him on the ignore list. I just don't have the energy/patience to keep going around in circles with him anymore.
I know what you mean. I used to thrive on negative energy before, now it simply disgusts me. I can't stand it. It feels like it sucks the life out of you and you're filled with this sad emptiness.

Best of luck to you too. We tried. Its was worthwhile.
 

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Alle Gory,Alle Gory,Alle Gory. I told you not to let this guy make you bitter. I can tell by your replies to him that you seem to be getting agitated/frustrated. You've let this guy infect you with his negativity. That's why I bowed out man. If you think you can help him,then by all means,do it. Just don't get too entangled with all the mental sickness going on inside his head. We don't want to have to disinfect you too.:D
 

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Alle Gory,Alle Gory,Alle Gory. I told you not to let this guy make you bitter. I can tell by your replies to him that you seem to be getting agitated/frustrated. You've let this guy infect you with his negativity. That's why I bowed out man. If you think you can help him,then by all means,do it. Just don't get too entangled with all the mental sickness going on inside his head. We don't want to have to disinfect you too.:D
I'm not frustrated with him. I'm giving him the truth raw as I bow out too. I won't spend time putting my hard earned energy in a black hole.

Thank you for the concern. Really. But you should be more concerned about his therapist if he ever gets one. :kick: <-Therapist.
 
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