I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Absolutely. Especially Latinos. Most are catholic do to the early church spreading throughout central and South America.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The majority of both European Spanish / Italian and Latin American females are religiously polarised. These days, a marginal majority are atheist, but the remainder are devout, many to the point of being irritating.
i know 15+ latinas and none of them are religious
Ask them what religion they are.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
all of them are christian
I live in a country full of them. Have done for 30 years. Some play games, but the majority (in Spain at least), religious or not, are solid. I guess that in the US, Latinas might be different. But in Europe, both the Europeans and South) Central American immigrants are a good bet. Perhaps you should focus on new arrivals.
Spaniards are white.
That was (partly*) true, a few centuries ago. Then history occured. And many of them emigrated to Spain / Europe, and viceversa. Some parts of certain cities in Spain now have higher concentrations of Latin Americans (Cuba, Venezuela, Colombia, Argentina, etc) than European Spanish.
I knew two of them and I don't think they were religious either, at least at the time I dealt with them. They cost $ 60.00 each but didn't have that type of discussion with them since it may have killed the mood, but their English wasn't that good anyway. The first one was from Colombia, and the second was from Brazil. (not the same day and no penetrative sex for the record although it was offered by them). I went to a Spanish church a couple of weekends later to see if I could meet other Spanish girls but most of them looked like they were with their families and I felt like an outsider there as I'm not Spanish myself nor understand their language.
Yeah, and some of them take money for it too. To be fair, that last prostitute was the last woman from Latin America (or any woman in general) I've been intimate with and this was like 4 years ago and I consider the whole thing was a mistake on my end. But look, I've been satisfied by that encounter for over 4 years and haven't really been turned on by anyone since then. Like you I just wanted to be with a Spanish woman, like the ones you have described and posted on here and $ 60 seemed like a good deal at the time to make a lifelong memory. Now I can say I've been with a Spanish woman and all it cost was $ 60 (and the hidden costs of sanity and peace of mind afterwards).bigdave17 said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is really on point. Good for you man for grabbing your steel balls and going for it with this girl!